I love coaching Wildhearts
This was my temperament (strong willed, sensitive) and lived experience growing up. Look at this drawing of my inner child. Did you notice that she isn’t grounded and doesn’t appear to have any solid foundations?
Wildhearts view the world through their hearts, without a strong, consistent emotional connection to rest in, they feel lost and alone.
Perhaps you can relate. You could try drawing your own picture – it’s a beautiful way to express yourself.
I don’t like labels – we’re so much more than that
Labels tend to put us in boxes and those with negative connotations can damage self-esteem. There are so many kids who are being assessed and statemented, but nobody can comment on their emotional environment (it’s not tangible or measurable).
It can only be felt by their hearts.
See them in a more positive light
I wonder how many of them are have an appropriate emotional response to living in complete chaos? The world is in such a state right now.
Being a Wildheart creates a more positive identity. Everything about you, which you try to hide or that makes you feel weird, is the magic of who you are. We all have super powers that we can be really proud of.
“True belonging is when you can share your most authentic self with the world, and find preciousness in both being a part of something and standing alone in the wilderness. True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to BE who you are.” – Brene Brown.
Signs of a Wonderful Wildheart
Wildhearts can also identify as: 💟 HSPs (I scored 23 in Dr. Elaine Aron’s Test for Highly Sensitive People) 💟 Intuitives or Empaths 💟 INFJ in the Myers Briggs Personality Test 💟 New Earth Children (Indigos, Rainbow or Crystals). They:
✔ have a strong sense of justice and what is fair.
✔ get very upset if people don’t believe them or let them tell their side of the story.
✔ have a voice and need to learn how to use it. Perhaps it will be an essential part of who they are here to become?
✔ value freedom and won’t be boxed in. Following the crowd is not their way, but they struggle to find their tribe. Hence the wild.
✔ are very sensitive to their environment , they get peopled out and can pick up on other people’s feelings.
✔ are passionate about what they believe is true and protectors of people they love.
✔ will often champion the underdog in their quest for fairness and equality. You’d want them on your team!
✔ sometimes find the big wide world too harsh and are affected by the news, violent films or anything sad.
✔ need lots of alone time to recharge their batteries. Like scheduled duvet days when they don’t have to leave the house. If PJs were acceptable day wear, that would work for them!
✔ will often get lost in their own little world of books or watch their fav TV series on repeat. (Friends is my go to. I love hanging out with them at Central Perk).
✔ hate inauthenticity and will not pretend or cover up. It’s very important they can be their true selves.
✔ have an excellent BS detector and will sniff out the truth at 10 paces. Honesty matters greatly. They would rather know the truth even if it’s ugly. Often, they get into trouble for being a truth teller (lots of people say they want the truth, but can’t handle it really!).
✔ love nature and animals and will often find other children are drawn to them because their energy is big and strong.
✔ are incredibly curious and will think and care deeply. They will ask lots of questions and be life long learners.
✔ have busy brains that work quite quickly and they tend to live in their heads more than in their bodies.
✔ are very creative and have amazing imaginations. I have journals full of ideas that often rained down on me when I’m in the shower!
✔ are high energy and busy (sometimes mistaken for having ADD or ADHD). Read this article I found which is truly fascinating.
✔ often have big meltdowns out of the blue (and seemingly for no apparent reason) but it’s likely they’re full of feelings that have snuck up on them, and need attention.
✔ are fiercely loyal as a friend and will love you forever. They are kind and forgiving.
✔ have high tolerance levels which means they can be taken advantage of by less kind-hearted souls but when they are done, they are done.
✔ are more brave than they realise and because they’re so independent (no let me do it!), people often don’t realise how sensitive they are.
Learning is a Fun Adventure
I wrote Stuck Between Two Worlds for misunderstood Wildhearts. It follows the stories of 10 wonderful Wildhearts who are facing their own life struggle, but what they all have in common is that they feel different in some way – like they don’t belong.
When they journey off to The Wilderness, under the nurturing guidance of Nettie, Queen of the Wildhearts, they find each other, and the fun begins. They learn all sorts of self development tools (I learnt these on my healing journey and have translated them into fun and creative activities for children). They see life through a new lens. Over time, they start to realise that life as a wonderful Wildheart isn’t so bad after all.
If you are new to my work, the book is a great place to start. You can get a copy here.
Or listen to me talk about each Wildheart here 👇
Human connection is our brain’s default mode
I understand how hard life is when you feel separate from the crowd, and desperately want to be included. It’s lonely and it sucks. Humans are build to connect with one another and without that connection, the world feels dark.
If this is you, your inner child or your actual child: Welcome!
You have found a place where somebody gets it. They can be tricky to parent if you don’t know what they need. I believe the key is to have strong boundaries which are set with empathy. That way, you don’t compromise who they are or crush their wild spirit. And definitely no isolation or punishment because that will make them more angry.
What else does a Wildheart need?
People ask how to toughen them up. Or how to tame their spirit. That makes me sad. It’s not about that, it’s about meeting them where they are and knowing how to meet their emotional needs.
You can read more about that in the second part of this blog post: What does a Wildheart need?