I got up at 6am to write my blog. No I’m not an insomniac, but I am currently reading ‘What the most successful people do before breakfast time.’ By Laura Vanderkam. The book claims to help you achieve more at work and at home in those waking hours.
According to Vanderkam, we have 168 hours a week (including sleeping). I don’t know about you, but much of my time is spent working, sleeping, eating, talking or exercising and wasted on social media, emails and my personal care routine. No I don’t have children if you were thinking I lived in a parallel Universe. I have been a Nanny and done many a school run in my time to know how hellish mornings can be.
I know women are great at multi-tasking (sorry boys this is a scientifically known fact) so you probably think you are getting a lot done in the mornings – feeding the cat whilst shutting the washing machine door with your foot, mentally writing a shopping list and planning play dates whilst repeatedly shouting at your children to ‘Hurry up and do it NOW!’
The ONE big race against time
I often coach children who are sleep challenged and struggle to switch off at night. Evidently, they are tired and grumpy the next morning.
I hear Mums say to me: ‘Even on the rare occasion we are ahead of time, there is usually a missing shoe or homework situation which means total meltdown before school. This applies to Mums and Dads who are burnt out. Helping your child regulate their emotional state relies very much on your resilience and good mood.
You want your children to go to school happy (especially if they don’t like being away from you or are not a fan). You want to start your day without raising your blood pressure and then subsequently guilt-tripping yourself for being a Mean Mummy. How about if we re-write the morning scenario by getting up a little earlier? Sorry, I didn’t think you were going to like that.
It really is all about quality not quantity
The book goes on to explain how couples feel like ships that pass in the night and those who both work find only 12 minutes a day to speak to each other. I’m guessing that’s whilst slumped in front of the TV when the children have gone to bed.
‘If a week has 168 hours, if you work 50 hours and sleep 58 (8 hours per night) that still leaves 62 hours for other things.We can probably find more than 84 minutes (12 x 7) in there somewhere where.’ ~ Laura Vanderkam
You can never get time back again but it is our most precious commodity. Mornings are a great time to spend quality time as a family reconnecting. Time is one of the love languages and this is how we find connection with our children.
Start the day off right by connecting with your child
I have a theory that your child will feel good about themselves; they will be more open to learning and listening at school. It’s like giving your child a permanent invisible hug that loves them even when you are not there.
My Smiley Thought Cards are great for this too.
Develop rituals which make your whole family happy
Like any new behaviour, you need to master the art and that takes commitment, hard work and willpower.
It takes around 30 days to create a new habit through repetition and that why I wrote an eBook ‘How to Rediscover the Magic of Parenting in a Busy World’ telling you exactly what to do on each day.
You have more willpower in the morning than you do late at night
That’s when diets are more likely to be broken, affairs started and addictions kick in. If you deem yourself to be a night owl, there is a whole piece around converting yourself to a Dawn Buster!
Of course PRACTISE PRACTISE PRACTISE is key. You can build on your new routine by adding in one change at a time. Maybe try it out for a week and see how it goes before introducing another one. Perfect the art of your morning routine and your kids will love you for it.
Please don’t tell me you don’t have time
I do it all the time. If you have time to watch TV or hang out on Facebook, then you have time to give some thought into mixing it up a bit in the mornings.
We can convince ourselves of any ‘excuse’ if we let our minds go there! I think there are 3 key limiting beliefs which keep Mums busy + stressed.
>>….read on to get 10 Ideas to Shake Up Your Family’s Morning Routine ………
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