Smiley continues with the courage chats and talks to Holly-Ann Martin from Safe4 Kids to teach you about body safety.
Today we meet Jemma and talk about the challenges children face and how we can support them.
Well! What a year 2020 has been. We weren't expecting that, were we? As the magic of Christmas beckons, it's time to see if it has left us any surprise gifts under the Christmas Tree....
COURAGE CHAT #8 Your Courage Plan – – we’re going to put it all together and use the new things we’ve learnt to move beyond trickiness.
COURAGE CHAT #7 Calling in Your Helpers – – you’re going to work out which helpers can make you feel better when you have a wobble, so you can keep moving forward.
COURAGE CHAT #6 Hello Helpers – – you’re going to realise that help is all around if you know where to look for it.
COURAGE CHAT #5 The Sweet Spell of Success – – you’re going to learn Smiley’s magic formula for success – it’s not tricky at all…not when you know how.
COURAGE CHAT #4 Get Out of My Way – – you’re going to discover exactly what is stopping you and holding you back.
COURAGE CHAT #3 You’ve Got What it Takes – – you’re going to discover if you’ve got what it takes to do tricky things (I already know you have!).
COURAGE CHAT #2 Getting Ready – – you’re going to find out if you’re really ready to get tricky and feel prepared to face anything that comes your way.
COURAGE CHAT #1 Getting Tricky With It – – let’s talk about all things tricky. Whether that’s making it through Corona Craziness, doing hard homework, sitting a test, public speaking, staying away from home for the first time, joining a new club, learning a new sport, speaking up in class…whatever it is that feels tricky to you (and we all have tricky things).
You can do anything even when life gets tricky. Tricky times (hello Coronavirus), tricky things (starting something new or doing something for the first time) and I guess we could probably add tricky people into the mix. Life is full of trickiness, but when we believe in ourselves and we believe that we can handle anything life throws our way, it feels less scary and more peaceful. As the drama of the Corona Crazy unfolds, I want to help you feel as peaceful as possible.
What would your life feel like without all those worries? Wouldn’t it be lighter, freer and feel so much easier! Of course, it would! In today’s episode, I’m going to share with you some things that I think everybody needs to understand about their worries so that they don’t take over your life.
It’s a full moon in Aquarius which means it’s time for a little ritual. We won’t do the moonwalk like Michael Jackson! We’re going to let go fo the drama in our lives and the people who make it.
Do you know the secret to happiness? Smiley tells you about the 3 myths or lies that people believe are the secret to happiness. Then she helps you work out what your happiness is all about.
It’s been a funny old year, so I think it’s about time we had some fun around here. Welcome to Smiley’s Big Summer Quiz. Are you ready?
Conflict resolution is an essential life skill. Conflict can be helpful as long as everybody fights fair. When people talk about things that upset or bother them openly, honestly and with kindness, they learn more about each other. This strengthens their bond. We want to improve our relationships, not hurt, hate or upset one another. Most conflicts are not meant to hurt on purpose and many are simply power struggles. Today, I’m going to talk to you about healthy conflict and how you can make that a sure thing in your homes and schools.
What happens in your family when people disagree? Do you respect and calmly discuss your differing thoughts, feelings, opinions and ideas? Or do things often get to boiling point. Is there a big power struggle about who is right or wrong? Do people get told off and punished? Does anybody get hurt? Conflict is an important part of all human relationships. Not all disagreements have to be angry, sulky or scary. Let’s talk about that some more.
Words are powerful! They carry energy and they can build us up or they can bring us down. Grow your empathy and learn to think before you speak! Play a fun game and learn how your brain assigns meanings and memories to words. Become a scientist and discover this amazing experiment where you’ll get real proof that words can really have an effect on us.
The way you start your day really sets the tone for what’s to come. Do you start slow and feel ready for the day ahead?
Or are you rushing about stressed – not able to enjoy it for fear of being late or forgetting something?
Today I’m going to share with you how you can make mornings more enjoyable and less stressful. I want you to start your day with a smile! Not one on your face – that would be nice, but even if you’re grumpy in the morning, you have an inner smile that you can activate.
This one is a really exciting episode. We’re going to talk about the force. That’s your energy field or aura. We all have one and we have the power to change it. Want to learn more? You’ll need a piece of paper, some coloured pens. Find a quiet place to get comfy and listen in.
Br-ring-ring! ‘Hello, this is the boredom hotline, Smiley speaking how can I help you?’ If you’re sick and tired of being at home, or feel like you might be going a little cray cray, why not call the boredom hotline. Smiley wants to help you with that. So if you’re fighting with each other, or feel fed up and don’t know what to do with yourself, we can use that as a chance to dig a bit deeper and see what’s going on.
As part of my new daily Coronavirus routine, I can only go outside to exercise once a day. Have you been moving your body and getting out in nature? We’re so lucky in the UK that it’s sunny here right now.
I’m going to take you with me – let’s enjoy a sunny walk and a talk together! I also wanted to check in and see how you’re getting on. I’m not going to tell you too much as I don’t want to spoil our adventure together. I hope you enjoy it!
The Coronavirus has become a global pandemic and changed our daily life as we know it. The planet has slowed down, the schools are shut and people are being asked to stay at home. With all this time on our hands, can we turn this to our advantage or are we drowning in a sea of worry and feeling stuck with nothing to do. Let’s have a chat about that.
Life is full of unknowns and uncertainty. It really helps to know how to navigate unchartered territory without letting fear overwhelm you. It’s true to say that we all suffer with a little self-doubt sometimes. What if it doesn’t turn out okay? Am I making the right decision? What if I get it wrong?
What if there was a secret sign language that could help us find our own way without having to ask 100 people on social media or all our friends in the playground? In this episode, I’m going to show you a little Smiley trick that helps you tune in to your inner voice and find your way.
This month the message is about finding our place in the world. Listen to the message and learn how you make a difference and bring your own brand of awesomeness to the world. This might be helpful if you are nervous or not feeling very confident. We can chat about the things which might be holding you back.
It’s October half term here in the UK and as exciting and fun as it is to have so much time and space away from school, I also know that into that space jumps sibling squabbles, endless requests for more sweets, screens and other items that require strict limits. Hold those boundaries firm – don’t let the giddyness of the holidays weaken your resolve!
Life is a series of endings and new beginnings – a bit like chapters in a big book. With any ending comes loss and grief. Sometimes we have to grieve for situations and people who are still alive. Like when a family breaks up or when our friends move away. Death however is slightly different. It is part of life, but something which remains a mystery to us all. I’ve created this episode to help children understand death and make sense of it according to their little world. We will all have different beliefs about death and dying. Nobody is right or wrong because really we don’t know! Children have curious minds that are full of questions. When we don’t understand or we can’t make sense of something, it feeds our fear and anxiety.
This month the message is about sadness – allowing your tears to fall and wash away your sadness. Listen to the message and learn how to get comfortable with the uncomfortable. This might be helpful if you are worried or angry. Often that’s a sign that there is something lurking underneath all those big feelings.
Today’s episode is a little bit cray cray with lots of silly sayings to help you deal with rejection, loss, disappointment and failure. When you’re a sensitive soul, these things can go straight to our hearts and are really ouchy. Here’s the thing: in life people and situations will disappoint us. We’re all different and other people aren’t like us. Sadly, the world isn’t always as we wish it was!
Listen to Lisa and Mia talk about how easy it is to go from being stressed and struggling (just like we all do) to feeling calmer, in control and more confident again.
This month the message is about positivity, staying calm and embracing new beginnings. Listen to the message and learn how to tap into the warm sunny energy that new beginnings bring. This might be helpful if you are starting something new and you’re worried about how that might turn out. You can come and listen to this whenever you are doubting yourself or your feelings have gotten big and scary.
How are you feeling about starting a new school term? Are you confident and excited about new stationery and seeing your friends again? Going back to school doesn’t feel like that for lots of us. When I think about school, I just feel worried about all the things I have to remember and how much there was to learn. I love to learn but I prefer to be an explorer and make school fun.
Squeeeeeeeeeeel! I’m celebrating and I want to celebrate my good news with you! Listen in today and hear how important it is to celebrate success (without showing off). We often forget to look at how far we’ve come and we tend to notice what is wrong or what we can’t do. Or we compare ourselves to others and wish we could be more like them! You’re not meant to be like them. Do you know why? Because you are you…and that is BRILLIANT! In the words of Dr Suess …
“Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.”
Today I want to talk about a very special friend of mine – he is called Moe. Moe is my friend’s dog and I take care of him when my friend goes away on holiday. Moe has taught me a lot about life. He shows me how to have more fun, more courage and be more loving. If you have a furry friend – a family pet – you will understand how they have their own little personalities and become like another member of your family. It doesn’t have to be a dog it can be a cat, a rabbit, a rat, a guinea pig or a fish. I know they have scales instead of fur but lots of children I work with have fish. It’s calming to watch them swim about in their tanks.
Do you fully understand how your brain works and what makes it happy? On the Truly Madly Smiley Podcast, I’ve already talked a lot about how it’s important to feed your brain with the things that you want – goals and dreams for the future. It’s important to focus on the things we want and not what we don’t want. Otherwise, the worry train takes over and leads you into a big black hole that feels super scary. If you’ve got a creative super brain or a strong imagination, you will love this one!
Do you have trouble settling at night time? Do your worries come alive at night or do you feel lonely lying in the dark on your own? That can’t be very nice for you. I want the night time to be a safe place for you to go and hang out with your good self! So, today, I have something, to make sure that you can drift off to sleep peacefully. It’s so important to make sure your brain and your body get enough sleep. It will make you super sleepy – so don’t listen to this in the car!
Have you ever got yourself in a funk with your worries and lost your confidence? Life can sometimes get super hard. You feel like you want to give up. It’s frustrating. Your brain can tell you that it’s never going to work out. This happens to me, and sometimes, I can be really hard on myself. The good news is that I have found a way to take my power back, and so I can help you too.
Do you have a storm raging within you? Maybe you feel like it’s out of control and perhaps you’ve tried hard to contain it. Often it gets you into trouble and you end up saying things or doing things that you regret. That’s OK. I’ve done that too because we’re human and having a full range of emotions is part of that human experience. In today’s episode I want to get you to think about your anger in a different way, without judging it or making it wrong.
When I say the word ‘homework’, I think all the children all over the world inwardly groan. I think teachers might a bit too because they have to set it and mark it which takes more time out of their day too. Homework is a loaded word. It causes drama, it’s a fun sucker and it seems pretty pointless to most of us. You work hard at school all day right? So why do you want to go home and do more of the same? Precisely!
So, in my usual Smiley stylie, I thought there must be a way to help you with this. There must be a way to show homework that you are the boss of it and it will not have that much power over your life. Let’s have a chat about that!
Let’s tap into the magic inside of us so that we can feel good as often as possible. Sometimes we don’t realise how powerful we can be and how to use that magic to help us. It’s like a muscle though, it needs exercise to strengthen it. This episode is great for worry warts *raises hand* and shouts ‘That’s me!’ because we’re prone to letting our naughty brains wander off on their own only to find they’ve tumbled down a big worry hole. Let’s take a different path that doesn’t have any of those and let’s learn to use our amazing imaginations.
Do you find it hard to pick yourself up again when life goes wrong? To bounce back from a broken friendship, a failed test, a low grade can be tricky. It takes time. Or what about when you’re not chosen for the team or play a particular part or role. It sucks I know.
Is that what failure feels like to you? The thing you really wanted to happen, feels out of your reach and you’re left wondering when it will be your turn? Well, you’re most certainly not a failure and in this episode, I’m going to tell you how to feel differently about failure using my Bouncy Castle skills. When it doesn’t happen for you or it’s not your turn, it’s all OK. The sky most certainly is not falling on our heads!
If you’re a perfectionist, you will try to be good at everything. Or maybe you look at others and wish you were good at all the things they are good at. Now that’s pretty exhausting and you do know that nothing is perfect, don’t you?
So, let me make it easy for you. What if you were only born to be really good at one thing? And that one thing was something which didn’t take much effort and came really easily to you. Do you want to hang out with me today and work out what your one thing is? I call it your ‘Zone of Genius’ and it will make your life more enjoyable, fun and you can be more like you!
Do you have a friend who one minute you’re all good and then you’re not? You feel like you go round in circles with them. Your head is dizzy and you’re tired. Talk about a high maintenance friendship.
Maybe you’re confused trying to figure out what you did wrong, but you remain loyal. You keep trying harder to make it work. You try harder and harder but still your friend isn’t happy. You wonder how you can get them to like you.
Oh no! I hope you don’t think you’re hard to love. I hope you don’t think that it’s you who needs to change to fit into the friendship. You haven’t, have you? I think we need to talk about that today and see what your other choices are.
When you break up with a friend or say goodbye to somebody you love, it can feel like your heart is heavy. When you have a tricky friendship which is hurting you and breaking your heart, you’re faced with the decision of how to say goodbye. Either way, breaking up doesn’t need to be a total break down. I’ll tell you all about that in today’s episode and help you to help yourself feel better about the end of a friendship.
Got a Frenemie in your life? Your loyalty comes at a price and over time, it changes you. Are you putting up with friends who are really no good for you and expecting to feel happy?
Maybe you hope they will change or maybe you think things will magically work themselves out. It’s a bit like drinking a sicky icky soup made from Brussels sprouts, mud, bird droppings and the sweat of 2 mangy old squirrels. Now that soup doesn’t sound like a recipe for happiness does it?
Do you have a friendship which feels like a lot of hard work? Some friendships can be exhausting and confusing. You aren’t sure what will happen next and if everything will be OK. Maybe you have a friend who likes to call the shots and doesn’t let you have your turn. Or maybe your friend doesn’t listen properly or consider your feelings. Perhaps your friend tells tales on you a lot or has broken one of your deepest darkest secrets. How do we know if we can forgive our friend and let sleeping dogs lie? Or is it time to say goodbye and move on?
At some point, all of us have felt that achy hurty feeling of loneliness. It can make us doubt ourselves or wonder if we’re unlovable. Of course, we’re not unlovable in the slightest, but when loneliness pays us a visit, we can often feel so empty and sad, that we end up wondering if there’s something wrong with us. Tune in to today’s episode to find out more about what you can do about that if you want to.
Nothing stays the same forever lovely listener. I’m not very good with that – with endings. So, as the year draws to a close I want us to look back together and see how far we have come. I want us to really take stock of all the new things we have learnt and appreciate how wonderful our world is. This clears the way for what lies ahead of us in the New Year and we can embrace it with clarity and confidence.
Do you ever wish that your life was like other people’s? Do you want what they have got? I think we’ve all felt like this at times but, it doesn’t feel great not liking the life we have and comparing ourselves to others. As we approach Christmas and the crazy gets turned up a notch, lots of children get jealous of their siblings and friends or want what they can’t have. Jealousy can leave children feeling left out and unseen for who they are. So let’s explore that more today!
Lots of you have been telling me you’ve got a shouty teacher at school who you are scared of. I used to have one of those too. In fact, in life, there are quite a few shouty people who cross our path. We can’t get rid of all the shouty people in the world because sometimes, we can be a shouty person. What we can do is deal with it in a different way. Are you ready?
Today’s episode is about a serious subject. Well actually; it’s the source of fun and pleasure for many of us. It’s something most of us use every day. Some of us plan our lives with it and some of us feel lost without it. It’s something that connects us to the people we love, but it can also be the reason some children get bullied. If I’m honest, I think I would struggle to live my life without it. What could it be? Screen Time…
If I was a Doctor and you came to see me because you felt poorly, I would probably prescribe you some medicine or something to help you feel better. I want people to feel better. We spend too much time worrying, feeling miserable and wishing for things we don’t have.
Have you ever felt like the worries are building up inside your head so much that you get a headache or a tummy ache? A bit like when you put baked beans or soup in the microwave and don’t cover them up. Splat! Whoopsie! A mini microwave explosion is a signal from your body that all is not well. Are you listening? Busy lives can mean that stress builds up inside of us so it’s important we notice when we’re getting stressed so we don’t reach explosion stage.
What do you feel like when you have to do something you’ve never done before? Maybe you’re starting a new school or you want to join a new club and make new friends, but don’t know where to begin. It’s almost like you’re wearing concrete boots. Big and heavy, you feel stuck – rooted to the spot. You don’t want to stay where you are, but you can’t seem to move forward because you’re weighed down. Let’s see if we can give you a different pair of boots to wear.
Do people often call you sensitive or tell you that you over react to what they say? Do you know that you bruise easily, like a peach. Your skin is soft and a little furry. On the inside you are soft and juicy. Mmm you sound really yummy! In this episode I’m going to help you with that because you can’t go through life covered in bruises. So how do you protect your peachy skin? Sunscreen..no, not quite!
Imagine if every day when you woke up, you told your brain it was going to have a good day? What’s that you say: ‘You want to stay in bed? You hate school? You’ve got too much homework?’ Yeah I know. I have days like that too. Life can get pretty tough sometimes and being ready to face the day feels like too much. I’ve got something in this week’s episode that could help make it a little easier for you.
Do you have a busy brain? One that is full of unhelpful thoughts or worries? They take over your life and you feel like they’re out of control. When I was growing up I wished my brain had an off switch. Having a head full of worries is exhausting and sometimes scary. In this episode, I’m going to share with you the contents of my brain! Are you ready for this?
Have you ever noticed that some days you wake up raring to go and the day seems to be easy and fun; whereas other days you wake up and feel like somebody has pulled the plug on your energy? Your get up and go has got up and gone!
If you’ve ever played the game Chinese Whispers, you’ll know that what starts out as a story is changed by being passed around in a whisper. Each time the story is repeated it differs slightly from the original so that the final version can be utter nonsense. When this comes to gossip amongst friends, what starts out as innocent story telling can sometimes become a lot more serious.
How do you spot a fake friend over a real one? Do you know the difference? It’s really important that you surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. You deserve the very best in life and to be treated with love and kindness.
It took me such a long time to realise that I am in charge of my brain and I can help myself climb out of thought holes….or maybe not even get stuck in them in the first place. So in today’s episode, I want to help you understand your brain a bit better because nobody teaches us this stuff at school and it’s going to really help you. There’s quite a bit to cover and as usual, there will be Smiley stories to keep us going.
Have you ever lost something? Or maybe you even worry that you might forget something really important? Do you leave your belongings behind or forget where you have put them? Yep, me too. Don’t worry! Smiley help is at hand. I’ll show you that all you really need is your voice, trust and a little patience. Listen in and have fun learning a quick trick to help you next time you or your belongings get a little bit lost.
If you are afraid of the dark, have no fear because Smiley is here! I am too and I want to share with you some of the helpful things I did growing up which might help you too. Or if you have a friend that is scared of the dark, maybe you could share it with them. That would be a kind thing to do.
Today, I’m proud to share with you this first ever Truly Madly Smiley podcast, the only show where children everywhere get their weekly burst of positivity, confidence, love and encouragement. Lisa has created this show because she wants you to grow up knowing you are not alone. She wants to help you to feel confident from the inside out and know how truly madly amazing you are. If you want to find out where your Smiley is and how to tell when it wants you to pay attention, this episode is for you.
In this special bonus episode, Smiley talks about Release, Reflect and Relax as the 3 stages to get you to Sleepysville without stepping on the worry train. It’s really important that we understand our bodies and know how to take care of them. This is part of loving ourselves and treating ourselves with gentle loving kindness. We need rest after a hard day’s play or school.
This is a 90-minute workshop for members. The workbook is in your downloads. It’s important that children understand what a healthy relationship looks like and what steps we can take to ensure we are role modelling that to them. These are signs you and your child have a high propensity to manipulative, controlling or abusive relationships.
During the summer, families have more free quality time together. This can be a blessing or a curse depending on how you look it or what being together as a family means. Quite naturally, there can be lots of conflict, boredom and less time for you to decompress. In this mini-training I want to help you feel confident and prepared for the summer holidays, so you can really make the most of them.
In this mini-coaching session, you’ll learn what a true friend is, how you meet them and why we need different types of friends in our life. You’ll also discover the 3 friendship essentials and a fun game to help you get to know yourself. When you truly know yourself and accept yourself, the right type of friends show up without too much effort on your part.
The excitement levels whizz off the charts at Christmas time. Your child’s energy is prone to getting very big as the anticipation of all the sugar, presents and family time buzzes all around them.
Living with anxiety is EXHAUSTING! Are you looking for some light relief for you or your child? A workshop for parents to create awareness of how you respond to your child’s anxiety and how that impacts them. You’re going to learn: ▪ the FOUR different stress responses ▪ how your response to your child helps/hinders them ▪ the FIVE things your child needs so you can support them in the BEST way possible.
Coming Soon …
Episode 67 | Courage Chat #10 Your Courage Questions (Q&A to support the courage chats)
New BONUS: Reminder to Be Kinder Challenge
Episode 68 | The One with the Deciding Doors
Episode 69 | The One with the Positive Self Talk
New BONUS: 10 Days of Positive Self Talk
Episode 70 | The One with the Heavy Backpack
Episode 71 | The One with the Remote Control
Episode 72 | The One with the Feelings Fountain
Episode 73 | The One with the Super Soakers
Episode 74 | The One with the Magic Pen
Episode 75 | The One with the Perfect Life