Introducing premium Smiley coaching programmes tailor made to tackle your child’s specific struggle, as well as grow their self awareness, confidence and give them life skills which last well into their adult lives.

Smiley’s coaching experience is vast and exceptional. She can turn insight and wisdom into practical real life daily habits.

She has coached hundreds of children using a combination of teaching, mentoring, coaching and healing. More importantly, her natural warmth and fun loving energy mean that children gravitate to her and want to spend time with her.  Find out what other families are saying about Smiley Lisa!

 

Every child is different!  

Each coaching programme is bespoke and moulded to fit your child’s unique personality.

Smiley meets them in their inner world where they feel truly seen, heard and understood.

Your child will enjoy a regular video coaching call (Skype or Facetime) with Smiley. The results of which are strengthened by videos, audios and fun challenges to try between sessions. 

Want to get more involved in the process and have coaching yourself? Explore VIP Family Intensives.

 

From the comfort of your own home

Each session is 30 – 50 minutes long (depending on your child’s age) and is lovingly personalised to meet your child’s specific needs. The content is put together from Smiley’s tried and trusted coaching toolkit which she has fine tuned over a decade of working with children. It contains:

  • games, quizzes and music
  • guided visualisation and mindfulness
  • coaching videos
  • drawing and story telling
  • CBT and NLP coaching techniques
  • energy healing, EFT (emotional freedom technique) and yoga 

The rapport between your child and Smiley is key to coaching success, so you can have a 20 minute free taster before signing up. This way, your child can see if it feels right for them.

Smiley also recommends listening to the very popular Truly Madly Smiley Podcast to get your child familiar with her voice. Lots of children like getting to know Smiley this way and often ask to meet her without any grown up prompting.  

Fun, creativity + quality time that heals

To the child, coaching is enjoyable. It’s uninterrupted, quality time for them to explore and express their feelings. Even though it’s presented as fun and light hearted, it’s much more than that and is cleverly designed to  help your child move beyond their struggle. It also doesn’t make them feel like they are a problem or they need fixing. It offers them acceptance and empathy for whatever they are going through.

What can you expect from a session

You will need:

  1.  A private space where your child won’t be interrupted.
  2.  A good internet connection (please check your internet speed. Google the free Ookla Speed Checker. If you have less than 5mbps download and upload, then your connection is too weak for video coaching.

Safe and relaxed child-led approach

The sessions are child-led and your child will feel safe and relaxed in their own environment. During our time together, your child can:

  • Ask me questions about anything which is troubling or upsetting.
  • Discuss the materials you’ve been given to do between sessions.
  • Provide a motivational boost to keep you on track.
  • Give insight and an alternative perspective on matters where you are too close or too emotionally involved to see the wood for the trees.
  • Help your child work out what might be holding them back and give your child suggestions to move beyond their struggle.

 

Simply choose a package from below + book online!

If you aren’t sure about which coaching package you want or you have questions for Smiley, please book a Parents’ Free Clarity Call by clicking the red button at the top of the page.

Mini Coaching £379

or £199 2 months (£398 total)

For 7-8 year olds sessions are shorter and are coupled with feedback to parents. At this age parents are the biggest influence on their child and children are very sensitive to their environment.

🔸 4 mini private 121 Smiley coaching sessions (30 mins via video)

 🔸 1 parent feedback call  (45 mins via video)  

🔸 tailor made coaching plan + feedback report to tackle your child’s specific struggle –  includes fun videos and worksheets

  Smiley’s Bonus Goodies:

Box of Smiley Thought Cards 

Youth Coaching £999

or £510 for 2 months (1020.00 total)

For 9 yrs – teens, sessions are longer and there are follow up activities  between sessions. This is sent as part of their tailor-made coaching plan. Parents also check in at the end of the programme to discuss how to maintain lasting changes.

🔸 8 private 121 Smiley coaching sessions (50 mins via video)  

🔸 1 parent feedback call  (45 mins via video)  

🔸 tailor made coaching plan + feedback report to tackle your child’s specific struggle –  includes fun videos and worksheets

 Smiley’s Bonus Goodies:

Box of Smiley Thought Cards 

“Growing up in this challenging world can be tough for kids. Lisa is a guiding light in all the confusion, arming kids with the tools they need to navigate it. She was born to do this work and I am so glad that she was recommended to me and my family. Thanks Lisa xx”

Paula, Cobham

“There has been a significant difference in our son since he has been seeing you. He has confidence in his own abilities and he rarely uses rubbish to describe himself any more. He smiles more and they are proper smiles too. He still has the busyness in his head, but I feel that is easier for him to manage as he is happier in himself. He has loved his sessions with you. Thank you so much for your amazing work in making not just him but our whole family smiley!”

Mel, Farnham

Ready to Make a Change?

Learn important life skills, grow your family’s emotional intelligence and deepen that all important loving emotional connection with each other. This is often lost in the day to day busyness of life. It’s super important to remember you are on the same team and to make time for this stuff. 

Your emotional and mental wellbeing needs taking care of just like your body or your home. Children who are raised in this way, grow up to be well-rounded, healthy happy adults. 

Have some questions? Let me help you …

What is coaching and how is it different to therapy?
Can you coach children?

Children learn best when they are relaxed, being creative and are in a safe space to explore their thoughts and feelings. Coaching does just this. It’s easier to coach children because they are more open to learning new ways of being, doing and seeing without all the limiting beliefs that perhaps some adults have.

Having to unlearn the beliefs and ways of doing things that no longer serve us when we are adults can be a lot harder. Starting at a young age means your child will have  coaching tools that will last a life time. I wish there had been coaching when I was growing up! My main area of expertise is emotional intelligence and you can watch this really informative video to find out why. You can also download my quick and easy quiz  ‘How Emotionally Intelligent is your family ?’ which will give you an idea of areas for improvement.

What kind of things do you coach children for?

For a specific issue related to confidence such as:

  • Manage change like a new school or a new home
  • Prepare for exams or public speaking
  • Recognise their passions and strengths
  • Believe in themselves and all their strengths
  • Feel motivated and accomplished in life
  • Making decisions that are right for them
  • Learn from disappointments and mistakes

For a specific issue related to friendships such as:

  • starting and ending friendships
  • social skills
  • conflict resolution
  • bullying
  • assertiveness and setting boundaries
  • loneliness and isolation
  • choosing the right friends

For a specific issue related to worries and / or anxiety such as:

  • Sleepless nights
  • Being away from home (school residentials and sleep overs)
  • Intrusive or non-stop thinking
  • Fears or phobias
  • Night time wobbles – monsters, burglars, bad dreams, ghosts
  • Exam or homework stress
  • Family separation or divorce

For a specific issue related to emotional regulation and / or overwhelm:

  • Help your child understand big scary emotions like anger which frequently erupt into meltdowns
  • Help your child how to connect with their emotions and make sense of them
  • Increase your child’s self awareness and improve emotional wellbeing
  • Cope with stress and pressure of everyday life
  • Discover ways to self soothe or calm down in the eye of the storm
What do you NOT coach children for

I do not coach children who: 

  • have eating disorders
  • are self harming or suicidal 
  • are showing signs of PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder)

These issues require specialist thearpy from a qualified therapist or counsellor.

Are we ready for coaching?

I want you to get what you + your child need from coaching!

Although  it’s been said that I connect with children at another level and I do have an excellent track record (you can read about it here on my website), I’m not a miracle worker and I like to keep it real. I know coaching works when all parties are working hard and are committed to making changes. This is why I need you to take stock and be honest before you  begin. There is no magic bullet.

1. Are you & your child ready to change?

2. Are you & your child willing to be as open and honest as possible?

3. Do you & your child have time for coaching?

4. Are you & your child prepared to put in work outside of sessions?

5. Are you & your child open to doing things differently?

6. Are you & your child open to feedback (delivered with love and kindness of course!)?

7. Do you & your child  have a clear goal that you want to achieve through coaching?

I believe coaching is for everybody! 

If you were able to answer ‘yes’ to all the questions, then I would say coaching is for you. It is important that your child wants to come to coaching otherwise it will not work.  A little resistance or fear of the unknown can be expected, however if they refuse point blank to come, it will be a waste of everybody’s time and money. You know your child better than anybody, so discuss with them beforehand and gauge their reaction before making the commitment.

This blog post Are You Ready for Smiley Coaching? is also worth reading. 

What's the difference between child coaching and family coaching?

In Smiley’s ideal world, every family would have some sort of coaching or therapy. This is because each family exists as a system and each person’s individual contribution to the family (their words, thoughts, feelings and beahviour) has a knock on affect on the other.

Your children sit in your energy.

So whatever the relationship between two parents looks like (together or divorced) added to the parents’ relationship with their parents gives an indication of what the energy could look and feel like for a child. We call this attachment and you can read more about it in this blog post.

Often (but not always) it is the most sensitive child in the family system who picks up on the unhealed or suppressed feelings of the adults.

Think: dominos or a chain reaction.

Children are a byproduct of their environment and parents are impacted by their childhood – which if traumatic in any way will unconsciously and negatively interfere with their parenting. In most families there is generational trauma which if left unaddressed, shows up in the present and repeats itself.  You can read more about that in this blog post. 

If your child’s issue is triggering you or you feel like you want to be involved in the process, then you need Family Coaching. Or you can actively kick start your own healing by finding a therapist to help you understand and heal your triggers.

Child Coaching is to help with a specific issue and gives the child the time and space to refelct on their struggle as well as a practical set of tools to help them cope. It is often mindset based and shows the child where they might be getting in their own way or holidng themselves back.

Whereas Family Coaching helps the parent and the child look at the dynamic of their relationship and how that is playing out on a day to day basis. In my experience, this is very powerful for separation anxiety or parents who have already had some therapy for their childhood trauma and are looking to take those learnings further as to how they are impacting their parenting and their relationship with their child (atttachment).

About 40% of the population are insecurely attached so it is not uncommon. It’s a bond created by fear and usually passed down through through the family. Do you want to break the cycle? 

What happens in a coaching session?

Coaching works because Lisa believes that the child is resourceful enough to do anything and  allows a child the time and space to figure it all out for themselves – MAGIC!

I make coaching for children seem like they are just enjoying some ‘me’ time talking about themselves . They usually think it’s a lot of fun as well  as being a safe place to share their stuff. The first coaching session is about getting to know each other and discovering where coaching is required. I work from the child’s perspective. This helps set goals and work towards them. Coaching can be :

  • drawing
  • story telling
  • activity sheets
  • role play
  • games
  • using props or toys
  • plain old fashioned talking

If your child has been listening to my Truly Madly Smiley podcast, often they are excited to meet me and they want to work with me. 

How many sessions do we need?

I don’t want clients to stay with me for longer than is necessary because the point of coaching is to empower the child to go it alone.

Coaching is delivered in packages of regular video calls. Drip feeding the material is what makes lasting changes and prevents overwhelm. You cannot rush the process and doing so, will make your child feel unnecessary pressure. This will affect their enjoyment of coaching, and potentially the results.

In my experience, what helps the coaching process is allowing and trusting. The energy and attitude you have towards your child’s ability to creatively problem solve and find a way that is right for them is essential. 

My goal is for your children to become independent, happy, emotionally literate individuals.

The purpose of hiring me is to teach your children (through repetition over a period of time) practical tools to help them manage their emotions and feel better. Long term, they will be more self sufficient and not become dependent on me or my coaching.

Do not use coaching as a crisis resource

If you book me when things get bad or there is a problem, feelings will have built up and that’s why you’ll experience a crisis situation. Regular emotional processing (talking about feelings and making sense of them), as well as watching the coaching videos and using the techniques is what will change behaviour. This is what will help your child to feel better.

The average client usually stays with me for 3 months.

Coaching is a process and, in isolation, one or two sessions are ineffective.  It can sometimes take the child up to 3 sessions to have a trusted rapport with me which is the key to coaching success. Some children connect to me instantly, but this is why I suggest booking a free taster session so your child can try coaching before you make an investment. 

Once your programme is finished, you can then chose to continue with a maintenance programme if that feels right. 

How do I explain it to my child?

Present coaching to your child in a positive light. Get their input and make sure you have their buy in. Coaching isn’t for problems. People don’t need fixing. Coaching is for getting the most out of life!

I find using positive analogies that your child can relate to work well. e.g. comparing me to a Sports Coach who is helping an athlete train for a marathon or a Football Coach who ensures a player is top of his game before a match.  In this way, a Life Coach ensures you are the happiest in your daily life and can help you overcome anything that troubles you.

Naturally, your child will be more comfortable  when they feel like they know me, so pop on over to my YouTube Channel  or listen in to the Truly Madly Smiley podcast where they can get to know me a little better. 

If your child is unhappy, I would focus on how coaching could make him or her feel better.  “This lady you can talk to can help you feel happier at school and help you cope with those people who are not being very kind to you or help you sleep at night so you are not tired.”

How do I get my child involved + engaged?

In all my years of coaching, I see how children engage based on your approach to coaching. If you’re excited, enthusiastic and positive, then they will be on board. They may not approach it the way you would and that’s OK. Now this is the tricky bit: TRUST that everything they need to hear at the right time will be revealed to them (and to you!).  

If your child is resistant – sometimes we all can be when we’re entering something new or unknown to us, have a read of this blog post What to do when your child is afraid of change which I think you will find helpful.

I don't think my child will like it or I'm worried they won't do it

Is this true or is this your fear?  If it is: get out of your child’s way and let them discover that for themselves!!! Sometimes parents say their child won’t like or won’t do something because of their own stuff and they haven’t even asked their child. Granted there will be some children who don’t like it, but give it a go and try. You won’t know unless you try! You may even be surprised how your child responds…lots of people often are! Any resistance to coaching from you or your child is fear. You can use the taster session to allow your child to meet me and get an idea of what to expect. 

If your child is resistant – sometimes we all can be when we’re entering something new or unknown to us, have a read of this blog post What to do when your child is afraid of change which I think you will find helpful.

Introducing your child to the Truly Madly Smiley podcast is the perfect way to gently ease your child into coaching.

I'm not good with technology and don't think this is for us

You don’t have to be a wizard with tech stuff. Besides maybe your children will intuitively know what to do. They seem to know way more than I do these days – I must be getting old. I will guide you through the process and once you’ve done it once and seen how easy it is, you won’t look back. It only becomes a block to coaching if you see it that way in your mind 🙂 It doesn’t have to be and even though I was resistant to being coached online initially, I realised that it can be just as powerful as face-to-face.

Doesn't my child need to be with you so you can help them?

No. Most of the work and processing is done unconsciously by the child and is done between sessions. We can’t see it because it’s what I call: joining the dots. The information goes from their brains (self awareness) into their hearts and souls. It takes time and sometimes repetition for them to find their way with it but eventually they do.

What also helps is the worksheets and putting pen to paper (whether that is drawing or writing it doesn’t matter), it cements their learnings. Discovering and learning needs to be fun and relaxed with no pressure for desired outcomes. The children are the ones who do the work. Not me! They are the ones who have the answers they need to take them beyond their struggle and my coaching programmes are simply brilliant at asking the right questions and leading them on that path. That is what coaching does. The courses are tried and tested and their content gives your child what they need to feel better. Check out the testimonials to see how people feel about working with me. 

What happens if coaching doesn't work?

Coaching success lies in setting goals and finding ways to reach them.  This can be anything from changing behaviour to tackling something new and different.

What would coaching look like to you if it was working? Realistically long lasting changes take time and your child is still growing and learning. We are looking for progress not perfection!

I’m confident that coaching will have a positive impact on your child and subsequently, the rest of the family so long as you take action. For this reason,  if we agree that coaching is not working, then I will refer you appropriately or make recommendations. Some clients continue for six months or more, because they enjoy the regular boost and learning more about themselves.  I love it when clients are able to see results sooner than expected. It may come as no great surprise that the more you put in, the more you get out of it.

How do you measure coaching success?

Coaching is a process and not a magic wand.  It requires commitment, open honest communication and effort from all parties (coach, coachee and parent).

Coaching is a way of identifying what is not working now and how a plan can be put in place with practical steps to get to where the child needs to be. Children are very resourceful in a safe and positive environment and can work through their own challenges. This is done at the child’s pace and will depend very much on the child as to how long they stay in coaching for.  

There are many success stories about how coaching has helped other families on my blog, and some very kind words from happy children. Coaching is measurable by progress. Children often hold on to their stuff and can hold off change until right near the end. We have to allow them to do it when the time is right for them.

Some clients see changes during their programme, some at the end and some after. I cannot ‘fix’ your child. This may seem like a strange thing to say but I want to manage your expectations. It’s important to convey my intention which is to help your child understand themselves, feel comfortable in their own skin, find coping strategies, strengthen your child’s resourcefulness and resilience to life.

Will I be privy to what is discussed in coaching?

What is discussed in the coaching sessions is between myself and the child unless the child is breaking the law or in danger.  

I do encourage the child to share as much as they are able to. Please don’t worry if your child is not very forthcoming and respect that they are processing. They may share when they are ready. There is an aftercare worksheet which is sent to parents after the first session which explains to parents how they can best support this process.

I do NOT communicate with parents via telephone during the programme as this inevitably turns into a coaching session for you.

If your package includes a parents’ feedback call, then you will be able to save your concerns or questions until then. If your package doesn’t include a parents’ feedback call, you can send me an email. If coaching brings up uncomfortable feelings for you and you would like to explore this further, I will refer you appropriately. My priority is the child and my energy is better spent making sure they get what they need from coaching.

If you want to be more involved in the process, then perhaps Family Coaching is more suitable for you.

How do we book?
  • Select the package you want and pay online. If you’re not sure what you need, book a Parent’s Free Clarity Call to talk through the options.
  • You will receive a confirmation with a code (there is a blue underlined link marked ‘schedule’ which is unique to you. Keep it safe as you will need this every time you book a session).
  • Click on the blue link marked ‘schedule’ and you will be given access to Smiley’s online diary so you can book in your session.
  • You will receive an email booking confirmation with details of how to Face time or Skype Smiley.
  • Find a quiet space to listen in – you may want to wear ear buds so you can focus.
  • After the call, you will be sent any additional follow up materials or resources.
How can parents support coaching?

Acknowledge your child’s perspective and empathise. Even if you can’t “do anything” about your child’s upsets, empathise.  Just being understood helps humans let go of troubling emotions

Every child has a different response to coaching. Lots of us are resistant to change which may mean we cling on to old habits, start new ones and fall back to old ones or even feel lost without our old behaviour. Even when it doesn’t make us happy. It’s hard as a loving and supportive parent to give your child space and allow them to be as they process and find their way (especially if they are teary or frustrated or anxious).

  • Listen and try not to judge.
  • Gently encourage them and praise them for being brave if they are struggling.
  • Let them know you believe in them to figure it out.
  • Resist your urge to rush in and fix.
  • Try to be patient and trust the process. This is one of the hardest things for parents: letting go. When we get overly prescriptive and  try to control the outcome, the magic is lost.
We don't have the budget for 121 coaching what else can we do?

This blog post The True Cost of Your Child’s Happiness tells you about all the free and more affordable coaching options available (starting from £15 upwards). I’ve tried to make coaching affordable for everybody, So whilst bespoke private 121 coaching with me may not be a viable option for your family, there are plenty of juicy resources to get stuck into; including this stack of freebies.

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