Private Sessions

Emotional education is essential to prepare your child for the road ahead. Introducing premium one-to-one programmes that teach life skills and emotional literacy. 

Every child is different!

Each coaching programme is bespoke and moulded to fit your child’s unique personality. Your child will feel safe and relaxed learning in their own environment. 

‘Emotional intelligence is your child’s passport to future happiness. Lay the foundations today!’

Lisa Parkes 

121 Video Calls

Each session is 30 – 50 minutes long (depending on your child’s age) and is lovingly personalised to meet your child’s specific needs.

Skills for Life

Your very own Smiley toolkit with videos, audios, printables and fun challenges to keep forever.

 

From the comfort of your own home

Smiley connects with children in their world via regular video coaching call (Whatsapp or Facetime).

I can help with …

Confidence + Low Self Esteem

  • Manage change like a new school or a new home
  • Prepare for exams or public speaking
  • Boost confidence and self-belief
  • Unlock intuition and make good decisions
  • Learn from disappointments and mistakes (perfectionistic)

Friendship + Social

  • starting and ending friendships
  • social skills
  • conflict resolution
  • bullying
  • assertiveness and setting boundaries
  • loneliness and isolation
  • choosing the right friend

Stress, Anxiety & Depression

  • Sleepless nights
  • Being away from home (school residentials and sleep overs)
  • Intrusive or non-stop thinking
  • Fears or phobias
  • Night time wobbles – monsters, burglars, bad dreams, ghosts
  • Exam or homework stress
  • Family separation or divorce

Emotional Disregulation

  • Help your child understand big scary emotions like anger which frequently erupt into meltdowns
  • Help your child how to connect with their emotions and make sense of them
  • Increase your child’s self awareness and improve emotional wellbeing
  • Cope with stress and pressure of everyday life
  • Discover ways to self soothe or calm down in the eye of the storm

Family Relationships

To learn more about Family Coaching, click here .

Intuitive Approach

To the child, coaching is uninterrupted, quality time for them to explore and express their feelings. The sessions are child-led offering acceptance and empathy for whatever they are going through. They are not the problem – they are having a problem! I trust the coaching process and let it unravel. i know when to step forward and when to hang back. I am not prescriptive, nor do I give advice.  I simply know what questions to ask. I listen to what they don’t say and I pick up on their unspoken words and buried feelings. I am a positive mirror for all that they already are and may not be able to see. I am their biggest cheerleader and have every faith that they will find the answers they are searching for.

Meet Smiley!

The rapport between your child and Smiley is key to coaching success.

Book a 20 minute free taster to see if it feels right for them. Smiley also recommends listening to the very popular Truly Madly Smiley Podcast to get your child familiar with her voice. Lots of children like getting to know Smiley this way and often ask to meet her without any grown-up prompting.

I’d Love to Help

Emergency Session £150

One off troubleshooting session

For 8 yrs – adults, one off session to boost confidence, soothe stress, tackle a particularly troubling issue or work out a plan of action when you’re feeling stuck.

🔸 1 private 121 Smiley coaching sessions (50 mins via video)  

🔸 follow up email with helpful recommendations, coaching activities and practical tools to help you move forward.

Mini Coaching £479

or £249 for 2 months (£498 total)

For 8-9 year olds sessions are shorter and are coupled with feedback to parents. 

🔸 6 mini private 121 Smiley coaching sessions (30 mins via video)

 🔸 1 parent feedback call  (45 mins via video)  

🔸 tailor made coaching plan + feedback to tackle your child’s specific struggle

  Smiley’s Bonus Goodies:

Choose from : Box of Smiley Thought Cards or Relaxation Pack

Youth Coaching £999

or £343 for 3 months (£1,029 total)

For 10yrs – teens, sessions are longer and there are follow up activities between sessions. 

🔸 8 private 121 Smiley coaching sessions (50 mins via video)  

🔸 1 parent feedback call  (45 mins via video)  

🔸 tailor made coaching plan + feedback to tackle your child’s specific struggle.

 Smiley’s Bonus Goodies:

Choose from : Box of Smiley Thought Cards  or ‘Stuck Between Two Worlds.

“Growing up in this challenging world can be tough for kids. Lisa is a guiding light in all the confusion, arming kids with the tools they need to navigate it. She was born to do this work and I am so glad that she was recommended to me and my family. Thanks Lisa.”

Paula, Cobham

“There has been a significant difference in our son since he has been seeing you. He has confidence in his own abilities and he rarely uses rubbish to describe himself any more. He smiles more and they are proper smiles too. He still has the busyness in his head, but I feel that is easier for him to manage as he is happier in himself. He has loved his sessions with you. Thank you so much for your amazing work in making not just him but our whole family smiley!”

Mel, Farnham

“On a personal note, I hadn’t fully appreciated before we started coaching with you, how much these skills will help with everything throughout their entire life! It has been a profound realisation for me, and I’m just grateful to have found you. The kids are so engaged and excited by it. They tell their friends like it’s a totally regular (I think it should be) and recommend them to listen to their podcasts.”

Jo, Kingston-upon-Thames

Ready to Make a Change?

Learn important life skills, grow your family’s emotional intelligence and deepen that all important loving emotional connection with each other. This is often lost in the day to day busyness of life. Your emotional and mental wellbeing needs taking care of just like your body or your home. Children who are raised in this way, grow up to be well-rounded, healthy happy adults. 

Frequently Asked Questions

Here are some of the things people ask me about coaching.

 

What is coaching and how is it different to therapy?
What do you NOT coach children for

I do not coach children who: 

  • have eating disorders
  • are self harming or suicidal 
  • are showing signs of PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder)

These issues require specialist thearpy from a qualified therapist or counsellor.

Are we ready for coaching?

I want you to get what you + your child need from coaching!

Although  it’s been said that I connect with children at another level and I do have an excellent track record (you can read about it here on my website), I’m not a miracle worker and I like to keep it real. I know coaching works when all parties are working hard and are committed to making changes. This is why I need you to take stock and be honest before you  begin. There is no magic bullet. This blog post Are You Ready for Smiley Coaching? is also worth reading.

What's the difference between child coaching and family coaching?

In Smiley’s ideal world, every family would have some sort of coaching or therapy. This is because each family exists as a system and each person’s individual contribution to the family (their words, thoughts, feelings and beahviour) has a knock on affect on the other.

If your child’s issue is triggering you or you feel like you want to be involved in the process, then you need Family Coaching. Or you can actively kick start your own healing by finding a therapist to help you understand and heal your triggers.

Child Coaching is to help with a specific issue and gives the child the time and space to refelct on their struggle as well as a practical set of tools to help them cope. It is often mindset based and shows the child where they might be getting in their own way or holidng themselves back.

Whereas Family Coaching helps the parent and the child look at the dynamic of their relationship and how that is playing out on a day to day basis. In my experience, this is very powerful for separation anxiety or parents who have already had some therapy for their childhood trauma and are looking to take those learnings further as to how they are impacting their parenting and their relationship with their child.

What happens in a coaching session?

Coaching works because Lisa believes that the child is resourceful enough to do anything and  allows a child the time and space to figure it all out for themselves – MAGIC!

I make coaching for children seem like they are just enjoying some ‘me’ time talking about themselves . They usually think it’s a lot of fun as well  as being a safe place to share their stuff. The first coaching session is about getting to know each other and discovering where coaching is required. I work from the child’s perspective. This helps set goals and work towards them. Coaching can be :

  • drawing
  • story telling
  • activity sheets
  • role play
  • games
  • using props or toys
  • plain old fashioned talking

If your child has been listening to my Truly Madly Smiley podcast, often they are excited to meet me and they want to work with me. 

How many sessions do we need?

The average client stays with me for 3 months.

Coaching is a process and, in isolation, one or two sessions are ineffective.  It can sometimes take the child up to 3 sessions to have a trusted rapport with me which is the key to coaching success. Some children connect to me instantly, but this is why I suggest booking a free taster session so your child can try coaching before you make an investment. Once your programme is finished, you can then chose to continue with a maintenance programme if that feels right.

How much time do we need to dedicate to this?

The time for your coaching session is not your only commitment if you want to see a change. You will receive a coaching pack with videos, audios and coaching exercises to complete between sessions.

How do I explain it to my child?

Present coaching to your child in a positive light. Get their input and make sure you have their buy in. Coaching isn’t for problems. People don’t need fixing. Coaching is for getting the most out of life!

I find using positive analogies that your child can relate to work well. e.g. comparing me to a Sports Coach who is helping an athlete train for a marathon or a Football Coach who ensures a player is top of his game before a match.  In this way, a Life Coach ensures you are the happiest in your daily life and can help you overcome anything that troubles you.

I'm not good with technology and don't think this is for us

You don’t have to be a wizard with tech stuff. Besides, maybe your children will intuitively know what to do.  I will guide you through the process and once you’ve done it once and seen how easy it is, you won’t look back. It only becomes a block to coaching if you see it that way in your mind 🙂 It doesn’t have to be and even though I was resistant to being coached online initially, I realised that it can be just as powerful as face-to-face.

You will need:

  1.  A private space where your child won’t be interrupted.
  2.  A good internet connection (please check your internet speed. Google the free Ookla Speed Checker. If you have less than 5mbps download and upload, then your connection is too weak for video coaching.
How do you measure coaching success?

Coaching is a process and not a magic wand.  It requires commitment, open honest communication and effort from all parties (coach, coachee and parent).

There are many success stories about how coaching has helped other families on my blog, and some very kind words from happy children. Coaching is measurable by progress. Children often hold on to their stuff and can hold off change until right near the end. We have to allow them to do it when the time is right for them.

Some clients see changes during their programme, some at the end and some after. I cannot ‘fix’ your child. This may seem like a strange thing to say but I want to manage your expectations. It’s important to convey my intention which is to help your child understand themselves, feel comfortable in their own skin, find coping strategies, strengthen your child’s resourcefulness and resilience to life.

Will I be privy to what is discussed in coaching?

What is discussed in the coaching sessions is between myself and the child unless the child is breaking the law or in danger.  

I do encourage the child to share as much as they are able to. Please don’t worry if your child is not very forthcoming and respect that they are processing. They may share when they are ready. There is an aftercare worksheet which is sent to parents after the first session which explains to parents how they can best support this process.

I do NOT communicate with parents via telephone during the programme as this inevitably turns into a coaching session for you.

If your package includes a parents’ feedback call, then you will be able to save your concerns or questions until then. If your package doesn’t include a parents’ feedback call, you can send me an email. If coaching brings up uncomfortable feelings for you and you would like to explore this further, I will refer you appropriately. My priority is the child and my energy is better spent making sure they get what they need from coaching.

If you want to be more involved in the process, then perhaps Family Coaching is more suitable for you.

How do we book?
  • Select the package you want and pay online. If you’re not sure what you need, book a Parent’s Free Clarity Call to talk through the options.
  • You will receive a confirmation with a code (there is a blue underlined link marked ‘schedule’ which is unique to you. Keep it safe as you will need this every time you book a session).
  • Click on the blue link marked ‘schedule’ and you will be given access to Smiley’s online diary so you can book in your session.
  • You will receive an email booking confirmation with details of how to Face time or Skype Smiley.
  • Find a quiet space to listen in – you may want to wear ear buds so you can focus.
  • After the call, you will be sent any additional follow up materials or resources.
We don't have the budget for 121 coaching what else can we do?

This blog post The True Cost of Your Child’s Happiness tells you about all the free and more affordable coaching options available (starting from £15 upwards). I’ve tried to make coaching affordable for everybody, So whilst bespoke private 121 coaching with me may not be a viable option for your family, there are plenty of juicy resources to get stuck into; including this stack of freebies.

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