“Good self esteem helps you know that every part of you is worth taking care of and protecting.”

Children who have low self esteem lack this belief about themselves and they:
 
* are sensitive to constructive criticism
* find it hard not to win or get upset if they’re not the best
* have poor self care
* suffer with anxiety (social and general)
* have negative unhelpful thinking styles
* are non assertive and easily influenced by peers
* find it hard to make decisions
* can become fixers and rescuers because ‘helping others’ boosts their self esteem
* are highly critical and hard on themselves
* worry about what others think
* don’t trust themselves
* have poor body image
* cannot accept compliments
 
 

Watch the video and take part in a mini self esteem assessment.

For those of you that prefer to read, here are the questions you need to ask yourself: 

 
Are you highly critical of yourself?
Do you like the way you look?
Do you find it hard to accept compliments?
Do you compare yourself unfavourably to others?
Is your glass half full or half empty?
What is your inner voice like? Is she kind, compassionate and encouraging?
Do you find it hard to make decisions?
Do you know what you want and what you don’t want?
Do you allow others to make decisions for you?
Do you know your personal values? (what matters to you?)
Do you find it hard to say no?
Do you find it hard to hear no?
Do you avoid conflict or play small because you don’t want to make a fuss?
Do you care about what other people think of you too much?
Are you comfortable losing / not being the best?
Are you ok about making mistakes or receiving constructive criticism?
Do you have chaotic or dramatic relationships? You might like to check out my training to help you with this one
How would you rate your self care? (1 is low and 10 is high)
Are you a good communicator?
Can you ask for what you need?
Are you able to speak up for yourself and be assertive?
Are you a good listener?
Are you able to enjoy your own company and feel comfortable in social situations?

 

 

Want to Build Strong Self Esteem!

In this video I also signpost you to some helpful Smiley resources. Here they are again:

Read my blog post Have you got the definition of true confidence wrong? to find out if you’re comfortable with confidence and read more about accepting compliments.

Catch up with my training How to Safeguard Your Child Against Frenemies, Tricky People + Meanies which you get as a bonus when you become a Truly Madly Smiley member. You will learn how when you have low self-esteem it affects the types of relationships you choose.

Get all the details of my fab new online course ‘Be Your Own  Best Friend’  which will help you and your child grow your self-esteem and learn to truly value who you are.

 

 

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