Private Family Intensives

This powerful online coaching programme is tailor made  to your family’s unique circumstances.

Intensive family coaching works with the whole family to heal, educate and bring awareness and insight to change generational patterns of dysfunction, toxic parenting & trauma.

By application only.

You can break the chains of the past

Leave a loving emotional legacy for your child

Work with me for 3 months to help your family strengthen your emotional connection, communication and understanding of one another. This programme works  well for parents who have childhood trauma, were raised in abusive families or are experiencing family estrangement.

You can sleep easy knowing you’ve got the best person on your team!

Parenting with painful trauma means you’re constantly second guessing yourself and worrying about your child. Your child may be struggling emotionally (high levels of anxiety, explosive anger or deep sadness) or socially (tricky friendships and feeling left out or lonely).

  • I’ll be there to answer all your questions, fears and niggles.
  • I’ll help you prioritise what matters most to you and your child.
  • I’ll give you helpful insights into the relationship you have with your child, so you can get clarity and direction. 
  • I’ll reassure you that you’re good enough (you don’t have to be perfect) and cheerlead you through the days that feel too hard.
  • I’ll coach you to feel more confident in your ability and this will help your child feel more safe and secure too.

In the absence of reflection, history often repeats itself…Research has clearly demonstrated that our children’s attachment to us will be influenced by what happened to us when we were young if we do not come to process and understand those experiences.”

-Dan Siegel -

You

 It helps if you have some level of self awareness (have previously had some therapy or done self development work) and are willing to change.  This isn’t mandatory but it’s a good place to start because this type of work is triggering.

Coaching can bring up intense feelings which helps identify where there is work to do.  It requires courage to stick with it even when uncomfortable feelings get dialled up. I’m here to reassure you and guide you through. 

I want to work with parents who value collaboration. Families are part of a system whereby each person’s behaviour will affect the other. Everybody needs to take responsibility for their part.

Your Child

I coach children age 7 upwards to understand that they already have the keys to their own happiness inside of them. 

I’m not prescriptive. I will guide and encourage your child to work out what is right for them.  

 Your child must be slightly curious and want to engage in the coaching process. Some resistance is to be expected, but if they are adamant they don’t want to, they’re not ready.  

A good way to get to know me is by introducing them to the Truly Madly Smiley podcast or book a free taster session with me. 

‘Smiley coaching has been amazing! Absolutely life changing for the whole family. It’s given me the confidence to parent in the way that is right for me and for my family.

I have learnt to look after myself and to say no. I have learnt that I don’t have to be perfect and apologising is positive role modelling. My daughter is so much happier too and it’s brilliant to see her change and flourish in such a short space of time.

Your techniques and exercises are so simple and yet so powerful and fun. We have loved it and we are sad that it has come to an end. Thank you for everything!’

Helen G, Surrey

Mum to Rosie, age 11

‘Lisa! I just want to thank you wholeheartedly for your loving support and guidance this week. It feels amazing to have you on my team and I can’t put into words how much I appreciate all of your email and text message correspondence outside of our calls. I have tears in my eyes reading your email today. It is that feeling that you are with me standing by our sides, that you are supporting me and there is no judgement. Even though this is a business arrangement, I can still feel the support, it feels pure and rooted in love. I am so grateful, thank you.’

Celia H, Wimbledon

Mum to Amelie, age 8

Parent Engagement

I will ask you to prioritise and work through the online coaching materials.  Our time together is for you. You can share your insights, discoveries and ask me questions.

I want you to be open and willing to change. To be accountable and to be committed to doing the work. I will not talk about the content of your child’s sessions but am more interested in what it is triggering in you.

My ultimate goal is to help you understand how the way you were parented shapes your relationship with your child. I want to help you foster a healthy loving relationship with your child. You can parent optimally when you’ve uncovered your childhood wounds. 

Child Engagement

To the child, coaching is enjoyable. It’s uninterrupted, quality time for them to explore and express their feelings. Even though it’s presented as fun and light hearted, it’s much more than that and is cleverly designed to  help your child move beyond their struggle.

I provide follow up exercises between sessions (it’s not homework like school). 

My ultimate goal is to help your child understand themselves, feel better and have a practical toolkit to become more emotionally resilient (bounce back from life’s challenges), so they can thrive now and in their adult life.

VIP Private Coaching

Worth £1200

12 private 121 Smiley coaching sessions (50 mins via video)  

These sessions are unique to your family and will give you the skills, support and encouragement you need to overcome your particular struggle. Parents or children can use the session time, but I will not coach the family together. I will hold confidentiality for each family member and ensure everybody gets what they need.

Transformational Coaching Materials

Worth £500

A tailor-made Smiley Tool Kit which includes videos, downloads, activity sheets and exercises to grow your child’s EQ, self awareness and self confidence.

 Parents Online Coaching Pack to help you find your parenting style, that’s the right match for your child’s temperament. This contains videos, reflection worksheets and step by step guides on how to:

* deepen your relationship with your child  * understand their behaviour  * become their emotional coach * set healthy boundaries

Personal Email Support

Priceless

Personal email support and guidance between sessions. 

As a Smiley VIP, you can feel reassured when you need it most. Reach out when you feel stuck and Smiley will be there to calm and encourage you. 

You’ll also get email follow up from Smiley after each session with any tasks, videos and activities to do. 

Smiley Bonus Goodies

Worth £50

A box of Smiley Thought Cards for helping your child to see the good in themselves and the world around them.

A selection of audios and relaxations to help your child feel good. 

 

 

Total Investment: £2,000 (Or 4 monthly payments of £510)

Here’s what you’ll get for the 3-month duration of this bespoke VIP coaching programme:

I need you to trust in me + the coaching process:

You can read about the hundreds of children I’ve coached in the last decade. A lot of what happens at coaching is not tangible so you and your child are processing and joining the dots internally.  You can’t see it but it doesn’t mean that it isn’t happening. I love working with families that trust the process even when it can feel like nothing is happening. I struggle with this myself so I understand this takes courage and strength. I will be there to keep on believing in you – even if you can’t!

 

I will not:

  • be a negotiator between parent and child. Instead I will encourage you to talk to each other. It’s not helpful for you to email ahead of sessions and update me with your child’s story or direct your child’s sessions. 
  • take group family sessions. Each member of the family is coached individually via video call. 

 

I am not:

  • a Super Nanny or a Child Trainer so none of the work I do will look anything like that. When your child feels better they will do better. I will help them with their feelings and grow their self awareness.
  • a Parent nor a Friend. My work is boundaried as I understand the importance of boundaries to keep children feeling safe. I do not share with parents what happens at your child’s coaching session, although I do encourage your child to share with you. Unless of course your child is in danger, breaking the law or at risk. Then I will be taking appropriate action immediately.

 

Got more questions?

Scroll down the page and read through the most frequently asked questions by other parents. 

 

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Have some questions? Let me help you …

What is coaching and how is it different to therapy?
What kind of things do you coach children for?

For a specific issue related to confidence such as:

  • Manage change like a new school or a new home
  • Prepare for exams or public speaking
  • Recognise their passions and strengths
  • Believe in themselves and all their strengths
  • Feel motivated and accomplished in life
  • Making decisions that are right for them
  • Learn from disappointments and mistakes

For a specific issue related to friendships such as:

  • starting and ending friendships
  • social skills
  • conflict resolution
  • bullying
  • assertiveness and setting boundaries
  • loneliness and isolation
  • choosing the right friends

For a specific issue related to worries and / or anxiety such as:

  • Sleepless nights
  • Being away from home (school residentials and sleep overs)
  • Intrusive or non-stop thinking
  • Fears or phobias
  • Night time wobbles – monsters, burglars, bad dreams, ghosts
  • Exam or homework stress
  • Family separation or divorce

For a specific issue related to emotional regulation and / or overwhelm:

  • Help your child understand big scary emotions like anger which frequently erupt into meltdowns
  • Help your child how to connect with their emotions and make sense of them
  • Increase your child’s self awareness and improve emotional wellbeing
  • Cope with stress and pressure of everyday life
  • Discover ways to self soothe or calm down in the eye of the storm
Can you coach children?

Children learn best when they are relaxed, being creative and are in a safe space to explore their thoughts and feelings. Coaching does just this. It’s easier to coach children because they are more open to learning new ways of being, doing and seeing without all the limiting beliefs that perhaps some adults have.

Having to unlearn the beliefs and ways of doing things that no longer serve us when we are adults can be a lot harder. Starting at a young age means your child will have  coaching tools that will last a life time. I wish there had been coaching when I was growing up! My main area of expertise is emotional intelligence and you can watch this really informative video to find out why. You can also download my quick and easy quiz  ‘How Emotionally Intelligent is your family ?’ which will give you an idea of areas for improvement.

Are we ready for coaching?

I want you to get what you + your child need from coaching!

Although  it’s been said that I connect with children at another level and I do have an excellent track record (you can read about it here on my website), I’m not a miracle worker and I like to keep it real. I know coaching works when all parties are working hard and are committed to making changes. This is why I need you to take stock and be honest before you  begin. There is no magic bullet.

1. Are you & your child ready to change?

2. Are you & your child willing to be as open and honest as possible?

3. Do you & your child have time for coaching?

4. Are you & your child prepared to put in work outside of sessions?

5. Are you & your child open to doing things differently?

6. Are you & your child open to feedback (delivered with love and kindness of course!)?

7. Do you & your child  have a clear goal that you want to achieve through coaching?

I believe coaching is for everybody! 

If you were able to answer ‘yes’ to all the questions, then I would say coaching is for you. It is important that your child wants to come to coaching otherwise it will not work.  A little resistance or fear of the unknown can be expected, however if they refuse point blank to come, it will be a waste of everybody’s time and money. You know your child better than anybody, so discuss with them beforehand and gauge their reaction before making the commitment.

This blog post Are You Ready for Smiley Coaching? is also worth reading. 

What happens in a coaching session?

Coaching works because Lisa believes that the child is resourceful enough to do anything and  allows a child the time and space to figure it all out for themselves – MAGIC!

I make coaching for children seem like they are just enjoying some ‘me’ time talking about themselves . They usually think it’s a lot of fun as well  as being a safe place to share their stuff. The first coaching session is about getting to know each other and discovering where coaching is required. I work from the child’s perspective. This helps set goals and work towards them. Coaching can be :

  • drawing
  • story telling
  • activity sheets
  • role play
  • games
  • using props or toys
  • plain old fashioned talking

If your child has been listening to my Truly Madly Smiley podcast, often they are excited to meet me and they want to work with me. 

How do I explain it to my child?

Present coaching to your child in a positive light. Get their input and make sure you have their buy in. Coaching isn’t for problems. People don’t need fixing. Coaching is for getting the most out of life!

I find using positive analogies that your child can relate to work well. e.g. comparing me to a Sports Coach who is helping an athlete train for a marathon or a Football Coach who ensures a player is top of his game before a match.  In this way, a Life Coach ensures you are the happiest in your daily life and can help you overcome anything that troubles you.

Naturally, your child will be more comfortable  when they feel like they know me, so pop on over to my YouTube Channel  or listen in to the Truly Madly Smiley podcast where they can get to know me a little better. 

If your child is unhappy, I would focus on how coaching could make him or her feel better.  “This lady you can talk to can help you feel happier at school and help you cope with those people who are not being very kind to you or help you sleep at night so you are not tired.”

How do I get my child involved + engaged?

In all my years of coaching, I see how children engage based on your approach to coaching. If you’re excited, enthusiastic and positive, then they will be on board. They may not approach it the way you would and that’s OK. Now this is the tricky bit: TRUST that everything they need to hear at the right time will be revealed to them (and to you!).  

If your child is resistant – sometimes we all can be when we’re entering something new or unknown to us, have a read of this blog post What to do when your child is afraid of change which I think you will find helpful.

I don't think my child will like it or I'm worried they won't do it

Is this true or is this your fear?  If it is: get out of your child’s way and let them discover that for themselves!!! Sometimes parents say their child won’t like or won’t do something because of their own stuff and they haven’t even asked their child. Granted there will be some children who don’t like it, but give it a go and try. You won’t know unless you try! You may even be surprised how your child responds…lots of people often are! Any resistance to coaching from you or your child is fear. You can use the taster session to allow your child to meet me and get an idea of what to expect. 

If your child is resistant – sometimes we all can be when we’re entering something new or unknown to us, have a read of this blog post What to do when your child is afraid of change which I think you will find helpful.

Introducing your child to the Truly Madly Smiley podcast is the perfect way to gently ease your child into coaching.

I'm not good with technology and don't think this is for us

You don’t have to be a wizard with tech stuff. Besides maybe your children will intuitively know what to do. They seem to know way more than I do these days – I must be getting old. I will guide you through the process and once you’ve done it once and seen how easy it is, you won’t look back. It only becomes a block to coaching if you see it that way in your mind 🙂 It doesn’t have to be and even though I was resistant to being coached online initially, I realised that it can be just as powerful as face-to-face.

Doesn't my child need to be with you so you can help them?

No. Most of the work and processing is done unconsciously by the child and is done between sessions. We can’t see it because it’s what I call: joining the dots. The information goes from their brains (self awareness) into their hearts and souls. It takes time and sometimes repetition for them to find their way with it but eventually they do.

What also helps is the worksheets and putting pen to paper (whether that is drawing or writing it doesn’t matter), it cements their learnings. Discovering and learning needs to be fun and relaxed with no pressure for desired outcomes. The children are the ones who do the work. Not me! They are the ones who have the answers they need to take them beyond their struggle and my coaching programmes are simply brilliant at asking the right questions and leading them on that path. That is what coaching does. The courses are tried and tested and their content gives your child what they need to feel better. Check out the testimonials to see how people feel about working with me. 

What happens if coaching doesn't work?

Coaching success lies in setting goals and finding ways to reach them.  This can be anything from changing behaviour to tackling something new and different.

What would coaching look like to you if it was working? Realistically long lasting changes take time and your child is still growing and learning. We are looking for progress not perfection!

I’m confident that coaching will have a positive impact on your child and subsequently, the rest of the family so long as you take action. For this reason,  if we agree that coaching is not working, then I will refer you appropriately or make recommendations. Some clients continue for six months or more, because they enjoy the regular boost and learning more about themselves.  I love it when clients are able to see results sooner than expected. It may come as no great surprise that the more you put in, the more you get out of it.

How do you measure coaching success?

Coaching is a process and not a magic wand.  It requires commitment, open honest communication and effort from all parties (coach, coachee and parent).

Coaching is a way of identifying what is not working now and how a plan can be put in place with practical steps to get to where the child needs to be. Children are very resourceful in a safe and positive environment and can work through their own challenges. This is done at the child’s pace and will depend very much on the child as to how long they stay in coaching for.  

There are many success stories about how coaching has helped other families on my blog, and some very kind words from happy children. Coaching is measurable by progress. Children often hold on to their stuff and can hold off change until right near the end. We have to allow them to do it when the time is right for them.

Some clients see changes during their programme, some at the end and some after. I cannot ‘fix’ your child. This may seem like a strange thing to say but I want to manage your expectations. It’s important to convey my intention which is to help your child understand themselves, feel comfortable in their own skin, find coping strategies, strengthen your child’s resourcefulness and resilience to life.

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