I call it *The Magic*
At the end of every coaching session or workshop, we choose a Smiley Thought Card. In that moment, something fabulous happens. Every single time, children pull the card which reflects back to them everything we’ve discussed in our session together.
It literally blows their minds!
I love to see their reaction and they look at me as if to say, ‘How does she do that?’
I don’t do anything of course. Our thoughts are made of energy and the cards simply reflect back to us our truth. They connect us to our intuition and allow us to make sense of our inner world. That’s why the right card, for the right person shows up at the right time. It’s empowering to know this simple fact and I’ve watched children change because of it.
It’s easy – try it for yourself!
If you don’t believe me, try it for yourself or better still, watch this video.
The key is to find a way to make the Smiley Thought Cards part of your life and recognise that thoughts and feelings are the priority. I mean if you can’t spare 2 minutes to do something fun which has a huge positive impact, then I wonder if a review of your schedule and priorities would be helpful here.
Think about it: only 2 minutes for a HUGE difference and a habit that will set you up for success. In schools, this is referred to a ‘Growth Mindset‘.
Are you willing to try?
I’ve discovered 30 ways to style out the cards and help you inject magic, love, encouragement and positivity into your life today.
1. Returning to School
Some children find transitions hard. I know I find it hard to get int work mode when I’m returning from a holiday. Or even moving from one task to the next. It takes me a while to adjust to my surroundings and to settle in. Watch the video clip below to see how it works.
2. In the Car
Get off those screens on long car journeys or pick a card when you’re stuck in morning school run traffic. Find a little home for them in the coffee well or back seat pocket so they are in easy reach.
3. In the Calm Down Corner
When emotions are running high, create a quiet safe space to calm down and use them to help you. Change your thoughts – change your feelings.
4. In a Bag by the Door
Tip them into a cloth bag and hang them by the door. Do a Smiley Lucky Dip when you leave the house or the classroom.
Children look in the mirror to brush their hair or clean their teeth. Fix your cards to the mirrors with blue tack and read them together over and over until those magical words become part of their inner dialogue. Making eye contact and really meaning it may feel funny at first but it’s very powerful. You can do this with me by listening to 10 Days of Smiley Self-Talk.
6. Fridge Door
Same with the fridge door. How many times do you and your child go there every day? Another card, another positive thought, another smile! Have a card of the week and change them up depending on what is on your radar at that time. If you’re a teacher, put them on the whiteboard/blackboard as this is the main point of focus for you.
7. On the Desk
Homework is a huge bone of contention for many. I share their view on this and think their time is better spent playing, being outside before the night draws in or learning to relax. Stress is becoming the war on childhood and it’s reaching toxic heights. Pick a Smiley Thought Card before starting homework so their brain is in the right place to focus and learn.
8. As Reading Practice
Or instead of a bedtime story. Read the words out loud. What you tell your brain it believes so make sure your child gets to hear and feel all the good stuff.
9. In the School Bag
This is a great one for children who are struggling at school or have separation anxiety. It’s a reminder to focus on the good. I am safe and protected is a popular Smiley Thought Card when children are being bullied at school or find it hard to be away from you.
10. Ask for Help
At any time with anything when you are stuck, ask the cards: ‘What do I need right now?’ and the answer will be shown to you. Don’t be surprised if you already knew the answers. You have all the answers inside of you. Sometimes they just need a little poke.
11. On the Bedside Table
Great way to drift off to sleep thinking about what is good about life instead of worrying about what tomorrow may or may not bring. This is called gratitude and it dramatically reduces anxiety.
12. On the Doors
As you move from room to room there is a message to remember. Children are so very visual and so with repetition, they will become what they see. Some children will quote Smiley Thought Cards to me during a session and it’s then I know that they have internalised what they need to.
13. Under the Pillow
Leave a little boost of encouragement or love under their pillows. It’s so nice to be reminded of why we are loved and if your child’s love language is ‘words‘ this will mean the world to them. Not sure? Find out your love language.
14. Make a Treasure Hunt
This is such a fun game. Explain you’ve hidden 5 Smiley Thought Cards somewhere in the house, classroom or outside space and challenge them to a treasure hunt. Afterwards, talk about the cards and connect with one another on an emotional level. This kind of connection means we feel truly seen and heard without judgement or expectation.
Use the pictures to tell a story. Shuffle and pick 5 Smiley Thought Cards. Take it in turns to create a story. Simply say what you can see in the pictures. Helpful questions you could ask:
- Who are the main characters in the story?
- What is their struggle or super power?
- What can you see here?
- What do you think that means?
- Does that remind you of anything?
- How do you think that feels?
- I wonder what will happen next?
Be encouraging and playful. Listen and be interested. Resist the urge to interrupt or do it for them. It’s a great way to get an insight into what is going on for your child right now or how they see themselves.
16. In the Lunch Box
Pop a card inside an envelope so your child knows you are thinking of them when they are at school. We take it for granted that our children know we love them, but sometimes you have to show them.
17. Pump Yourself up for School
Help your child, pump themselves up for school. Especially on days when there is a test or exam or a subject that they are not that engaged with. Or maybe when they are super sleepy and school feels like hard work. Show up at school in the confidence zone and ready to learn.
18. Do the Slide
I can guarantee that your child will love this one as it makes for some care free silliness to lighten the mood. The video below tells you more.
19. With Music
Music can really raise your vibration – think ‘I’m Happy’ by Pharell Williams or Uptown Funk by Bruno Mars. Put on your happy song to jump about and discharge some of that unwanted energy or release some worries or sad feelings. When you are done, pick a Smiley Thought Card. You may want to even do the slide (see previous point).
20. With Guided Relaxation
All of my clients do a guided relaxation before bedtime, here is one I’ve created which is guaranteed to make you feel better. Get your children to lie down and do the relaxation with their eyes closed. While they are doing that, pop a Smiley Thought Card on their tummy or by their feet. Tell them they will have a special message waiting for them when they are done.
You can also listen to me read the Smiley Thought Cards to your child in my Relaxation Pack, so that their brain is absorbing all those beautiful words while they are in a relaxed state.
21. To Connect
If you have read my eBook ‘How to Rediscover The Magic of Parenting in a Busy World.’ then you will understand the importance of connection and how that allows you to parent in a way that doesn’t mean you have to control behaviour. You can’t do that anyway. Children have to be in control of their own bodies and learn their own way. Use the cards to connect daily – if only for 10 minutes so you can really start to meet your child in the place they are in. Not only will you make a massive difference to their world, it will enhance your relationship to the point where you will see more co-operation. Imagine that!
22. After A Fall Out
Use the cards to help you learn from the experience and work through how things could be done differently next time. We call this a do-over and it helps us to learn from our conflicts and our mistakes, instead of feeling bad about them. Be Your Own Best Friend Course teaches how to deal with tricky friends and choose friendships that bring out the best in you.
23. When You Feel Lonely
There are times in life where we may feel that people don’t understand us and that is a lonely place. The cards always understand us and are a great source of comfort. You can share your good times and bad times with them.
24. In Stressful Situations
Focus your attention on what you can control when life feels out of control. Pick a card and refocus your thoughts, your body will follow its lead.
25. To Be Brave
The cards are great to use when your child is about to try something new or they’ve started to get on the worry train and think that they can’t do something. Anything is possible when you know how. Use the cards to shift your child’s mindset so they can get the most out of life.
26. To Make a Decision
Life is full of uncertainties and lots of us worry that we won’t make the right decision. The fact is you can’t make a wrong decision because whichever way you go, there will be adventures to be had, new people to meet, things to learn. Life is about having fun but if you or your child get stuck and really can’t make up your mind, pull a Smiley Thought Card and then you will know.
27. Boredom Buster
When your child is at a loose end and doesn’t know what to do, give the cards a shuffle to instantly provide inspiration and refocus. Contrary to what people believe, it’s good to be bored. Some of my best ideas have come from the silence. Listen here to understand what boredom really is.
28. After a Bad Day
When things don’t quite go according to plan, your cards are on hand to help your child feel good about who they are again. Do you get it? The cards are there to help you feel good whenever you need them to and whatever the situation. Once you start using them, you will want to go back to them again and again.
29. Get Alexa on the Case
For those of you who have Alexa, hear the Smiley Thought Cards for FREE. Simply say ‘Alexa! Play Happy Thoughts!’ and see what happens. Whenever your brain needs a confidence boost you’ve got it! This was a joint project with ‘The Little Book Magazine’ that you can read more about here.
30. To Solve A Problem
Use the ‘Inner Smile Card Spread’ (below) to go within and work out what you need. Any tricky situation can be worked through with a little introspection and reflection. Watch me explain how to do that here.
Don’t let your cards gather dust in a drawer
Get them out and proudly show them off. They are a great way to bring people together and to encourage healthy communication and understanding. Hold them, talk to them. Get to know them like you would an old friend. They want to help you.
The same card might pop up repeatedly as a sign that this particular area that needs your attention. There will be cards that don’t resonate or messages that make you feel uncomfortable. Resistance is usually fear of something and invites you to explore it, accept it or face it.
There will be favourites too. You can read how one card became my favourite when I made a special trip to New York to attend The Hay House Writers’ Workshop.
Spread a little Smileyness
If you know somebody who could do with some good energy in their life right now, forward them this message and tell them how much you love your Smiley Thought Cards. When we feel good, it makes a massive difference to daily life and that energy is contagious!