Every week, I jump on line and via the magic of Facebook Live answer your burning questions about all things children. I use the priceless and valuable insights from my coaching room and transform them into practical and helpful tools so you can give your child what they need to flourish in life.

Last week we were looking at anxiety for Mums so this week, we are going to help a 10 year old boy who is afraid of things that go bump in the night. I can totally relate. That was me growing up!

Dear Smiley

I’m really enjoying listening to this weekly slot. I wanted to write and ask you another question about bedtime. My 10 year old is refusing to go to sleep without me in the room. He has always been a terrible sleeper and so I usually stay upstairs and potter about putting washing away while he settles himself.

Since Christmas he cries when I leave the room and is telling me he is afraid of the dark. I don’t understand because he is not in the dark – he has a night light and we leave his door open. He is also refusing to go upstairs by himself when it is dark. I’m feeling quite suffocated by his constant need of me and for reassurance. I have two other children who also need me to tuck them in at night. I feel like he is too old to be behaving in this way.

To add fuel to an already tiresome situation, some boys in his class have been talking about seeing ghosts when you look in the mirror. So he has taken to putting his dressing gown over his bedroom mirror and not wanting to look in any mirrors in the house. I’m worried that this is getting a bit out of control.

My son has always had an over active imagination and is very sensitive. Nothing we say or do is working and the other night, I sat on the end of his bed until 10 o’clock. I’ve tried the relaxation downloads you suggest, but he says they are not working I was quite cross with him and obviously that didn’t help at all but I would like some time to myself in the evening after a busy day.

Any suggestions?


A Frazzled Ghost Busting Mum x

Watch the video below and find out what happened in this week’s episode of Dear Smiley!

Useful Links Mentioned in this Episode

Read one of my top blog posts 4 Real Truths About Anxiety That will Instantly Calm your Child and my most recent blog post When Things Go Bump in the Night

Train your brain to focus on happy thoughts with my beautiful Smiley Thought Cards

Your child might like to listen to my Truly Madly Smiley podcast where you’ll hear me talk more about how I was scared of the dark growing up.

Smiley’s Sweet Dreams Relaxation Pack has relaxing downloads. coaching tools and exercises to help your child deal with their night time scary stuff.


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