Some days you don’t want to – I get it! Then you go back and try again. You still don’t want to. You put it off and the very thought of it makes you cross, or want to run outside and play. Maybe you’d rather do something else like watch YouTube videos or disappear into your favourite book. This can happen when you’ve been listening to Truly Madly Smiley for some time. I’m going to explain why and what you can do to get yourself back in your listening zone. By the way, this also works and is true for anything in life that you avoid, procrastinate over or leave until the last minute. I really want to help you with that!
We’re working out at the the Wildheart gym today. We’re learning how to sit with all our feelings. We don’t need to act on them. No distracting, no zoning out, no ignoring or pretending that we’re ‘fine’. We’re going to set them free, so we feel lighter, less anxious and there’s more space for joy. Are you ready to work out with me? Let’s go!
Have you been saying ‘I’m fine’ but really you’re not. Maybe you feel like you’re bothering people with your feelings or you worry about what they will think of you if you show them how you really feel. You lie to yourself and that is never a good thing. Okay – we need to talk because your job is to be your own best friend and to make sure that you tell the truth to yourself and be comfortable with how you feel. All of your feelings are welcome and there is nothing ‘wrong or bad’ about any of them. I promise you.
In today’s episode, I’m going to share with you the lies we tell ourselves when we are pretending or hiding our feelings. I’m also going to help you see why you do that so you can stop doing it and instantly feel better. If you don’t feel your feelings, you will get sick. No question and so we really need to learn this stuff at school.
Often we don’t realise that we’re carrying lots of feelings inside our bodies. They build up, but eventually, we melt down. This simple drawing exercise will stop us from big feelings – like anxiety, sadness, fear or anger overwhelming us all at once.
So many times, we are not allowed to feel our disappointment when life doesn’t go our way. Our drawing goes wrong, we lose a sports match, and somebody tries to change the way we feel with trite comments like ‘Nevermind, it doesn’t matter!’ or ‘You can’t win them all – it’s the taking part that counts!’ The thing is: it really does matter to us and if you’d just let us be with our disappointment for a moment, you’d see that we can let go of our feelings when we are ready. We also learn a lot more from our disappointments if we can work out our feelings and we are not rushed to feel ‘fine’ again.
Today we are going to venture into the cave where your anger lives and have a chat with it. We’re going to find out exactly what is going on for you, so you can feel more peaceful in your body again. You’ll be so glad you did!