Imagine your child being able to know what to do

when their big scary feelings take over 

In my work I find that sensitive strong-willed children struggle with their feelings and sometimes feel overwhelmed.

It’s as if these children pick up other people’s feelings as well as their own. 

Is your child having frequent meltdowns?

Do you ever notice your child…

 Having regular meltdowns which feel out of control?

 Becoming overwhelmed by their feelings?

 Holding onto their feelings as a way of controlling the mood at home?

 Hiding their feelings or keeping them stuffed inside when you know they are really upset?

 Being scared of their feelings or avoiding them using distractions like the TV or changing the subject?

 Getting cross with you or blaming other people for their feelings?

 Acting out when you set boundaries with them?

 Being unable to sleep or eat or be apart from you because of too many uncomfortable feelings?

Do you ever find yourself…

 Feeling uncomfortable around your child’s feelings? 

 Walking away from or zoning out from your child’s big scary feelings?

 Making threats or punishing your child because their feelings are out of control?

 Acting out in anger or simmering in passive aggressive resentment at your child?

 Getting frustrated or cross with your child?

 Feeling embarrassed or ashamed of your child’s feelings or behaviour?

 Being busy or using food, wine, cigarettes (or something else) to numb out from your own feelings?

Lisa, had to get in touch…we have had a really good summer and I largely put it down to you!  I have been following your page for a long time now and trying out the techniques and parenting style that you promote.  I have now gained real confidence in what I am doing as a parent and it never fails to amaze me how healthy and positive this way of parenting feels.  If I am being honest the summer holidays felt really overwhelming but your videos and blogs totally sorted me out!  Just your little tips that us mums overlook because we’re swept up in everyday life, they’re the ones that make all the difference.  Today was the last day of the summer holidays and whilst I am looking forward to getting back into a routine we truly have had a great summer.  Thank you!

Caroline, Weybridge

 What If…

 there was a way to help your child be with, soothe and understand their feelings?

 your child was able to sleep and deal with their feelings by themselves?

 you and your child were aware of and understood your triggers?

 you remembered you were on the same team and life felt easy and joyful again?

 your family had a simple and practical set of techniques to help you process your feelings in a healthy way?

How amazing would that be?

We sometimes forget that children are hardwired to struggle and the more we allow them to, the more they can bounce back from life’s challenges. The buzz word around emotional resilience is called having a ‘growth mindset’.

They already have all the magical ingredients, they just need somebody to help them unlock this stuff and remind them of their greatness.

Guess what?

 

That is my Super Power!

Everybody has one. Don’t you? 

Once you realise you have everything you need to reach your full potential, you are winning! I help children to feel empowered and trust in themselves to handle whatever life throws their way. I fire up their self-belief and self-confidence so they are ready to face their fears. 

I’ve noticed our son is still getting angry however the outbursts are not lasting as long, he is able to take himself off for a minute and come back refreshed and usually out of an angry feeling phase. Secondly I have noticed that he is coming to tell me if something is going wrong usually involving him and his brother, rather than lashing out which is fab!

Sophie, Basingstoke

I know how hard this is for your child

It’s exhausting and it can consume them (and you). I know how long it took me to work out what it was I needed to do to make my life easier – happier even. (40 years to be precise and a lot of therapy, but you can read that story another day).

I have helped hundreds of families

understand their feelings and find ways to handle them

Here are some of the truly amazing children that I’ve had the pleasure of working with. I love seeing them succeed. Nothing makes me happier than watching them overcome their struggle and find their own way. 

After all, this was me growing up

I was such a sensitive child. I was strong-willed and yet sensitive. I lacked emotional boundaries and would get very angry very quickly because I would be flooded with feelings and I didn’t know how to deal with them.  As it turns out, I discovered that sensitivity is actually a gift and in the end, when I understood myself more, my strong-will turned out to be a really formidable quality which has helped me go far in life – in the direction of my dreams. I also realised that anybody who told me I was over reacting or was too sensitive was just uncomfortable with their feelings. It was never about my lack or inadequacies. It was about their issues. After all we are humans and we are made to feel. 

I want to share what I learnt with you 

I want to take 20 years of therapy, yoga, meditation techniques and things I have learnt along the way with you so you can find your way with your feelings. They are your internal satnav. They help you understand yourself and the world around you. They are messengers and when you realise what they need or what they are telling you, it’s like magic.  When I stopped judging my feelings and making them wrong. When I stopped distracting myself and avoiding the uncomfortable feelings. When I stopped labelling my feelings as good or bad. When I made friends with my feelings and learnt how to be with them, it changed my whole world for the better.

Introducing

Live Calm Down Class

Quite hard to describe unless you’ve experienced them

I’m not one to do things by halves, I’m going to try …

A mini workout for your child’s brain to release those feel good endorphins

 A reassuring hug to chase your child’s worries away

 That favourite old teddy bear to comfort your child when they wobble 

A Personal Trainer to encourage your child when they’re about to give up

 A computer programme for your child’s brain to train it to think differently

A kind and gentle nudge when your child has lost their self-belief

You will be in excellent company too

A group of gorgeous children who just like you have all of those icky feelings and don’t know how to deal with them. There will be no judgement and you will realise that how you feel is normal, acceptable and more common than you know (priceless and massively healing). You will be safe online and taken care of by Smiley who understands completely how you feel.

From the comfort of your own home

You can do the exercises from your bed or prance about in the front room. You don’t have to leave the house and recording of the class will mean that you can use them whenever you feel overwhelmed by your big scary feelings.

 

That sounds like just what we need Smiley! 

But how are you going to do that?

On Wednesday 25th October (which is half term for many of you) I’m going to do a 60-minute live Calm Down Class call via the internet and into your home. For the exact techie details and how that works – it’s dead simple, check out the Frequently Asked Questions.

My daughter really enjoys coaching and describes you as: ‘The lady who takes her worries away!’ Sometimes Mums and Dads can’t do it on their own. It warms my heart to hear her chatting to you so comfortably and takes a huge weight off my shoulders when I know it’s not just all down to me to help her find solutions.

Mrs Guest, Camberley

What’s involved…

60 minute Live Calm Down Class with Smiley

a 121 Coaching Programme with me costs £549, so seize this chance to work with me for considerably less. You will be able to get involved as much or as little as you wish. You can even remain anonymous if you want to or wait for the recording and watch it without group interaction. During the class I will:

✅ explain to your children why their emotions get too big
✅help your child to understand the importance of daily emotional housekeeping
✅teach your child some of the easy and fun calming / soothing techniques to help dissolve their feelings when they get too big
(I will be using EFT, yoga and other Smiley fun stuff)

You will learn about your feelings and 5 different calm down techniques which actually work!

 Printable Workbook 

with useful notes, tips and reminders, as well as space for you to make notes (or draw if you prefer – this is not school).

 Soothing Relaxation Download

to put yourself back in the Smiley zone and remind yourself of all the great stuff you have learned.

Special Offer Introductory Price of £35

until 17th September (£45 thereafter)

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