Would your child like to feel happier with their friendships and more comfortable in their own skin?

  • stop worrying about what others think of you and feel confident about your friendship choices 

  • learn how to respect yourself and in turn, you will be respected by others

  • have the confidence to speak up for yourself when it matters 

Get Smiley’s fun and practical coaching support so you can watch your child flourish and develop strong self-esteem from the inside out!

Enrol by 30th June

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Do you want your child to choose healthy friendships?

Do you worry that your child is alone or unhappy? 

Many parents tell me how painful it is for them to see their child in the wrong friendship or without friends.  

The desire to fit in and be accepted is strong

  • Is your child hanging out with so-called friends who leave them out or gossip about them behind their back? They feel invisible and ignored.
  • Perhaps your child forms friendships where the power is out of balance and they become a doormat. They can’t quite stand up for themselves and they let other people tell them what to do
  • Does your child feel responsible for how other people feel? Or are they desperate to be in the ‘popular’ gang and be seen as one of the trendy crew? Maybe they even try and get others to like and accept them and hide or change parts of themselves to fit in?

Relationships are our best teachers

At the heart of all good relationships is the connection we have with ourselves

Often the relationships in our life mirror back to us how we feel about ourselves. Sometimes we’re attracting tricky friends because we don’t value ourselves and we are tolerating bad behaviour. When you become your own best friend and you value yourself, you stop all that!

Children who struggle with relationships usually …

  • Have low self-esteem and self-respect
  • Are sensitive and take people’s words and behaviours personally
  • Are co-dependent (they feel responsible for other people’s feelings and put others’ needs before themselves when it’s not necessary or healthy to do so)
  • Lack assertiveness and confidence
  • Doubt themselves and are afraid to stick up for themselves
  • Are drawn to toxic on-off / frenemy relationships which get them stuck in a cycle
  • Lack healthy boundaries and feel insecure
  • Fear rejection and can’t be alone
  • Are seeking validation outside of themselves – they are people pleasers
  • Are unaware that friendship is a choice and no more than they deserve

 

 

This Smiley course is for you …  

If you are aged between 8 – 12 and you feel lonely or like you don’t belong. Or maybe you’ve got tricky relationships in your life – an absent parent, frenemie, a bully, a bucket dipper or bossy pants who takes over and wants it all on their terms. This course would also be helpful for siblings who argue a lot and jostle for their place in the family. 

 

Take Back your Power!

By the end of this course you can expect to….

  • have an increased awareness of your personal friendship values, friendship history and how you are contributing towards it
  • have a water tight plan for dealing with tricky people
  • have the skills and words to handle conflict without all the drama
  • have stronger boundaries so you can take care of your own needs and make sure you’re treated respectfully
  • have more self-compassion, kindness and empathy so you can be more accepting of who you are and not how others define you
  • have improved communication skills – you will know how to assert yourself and what can sometimes stop you from doing that!
  • step away from being a People Pleaser or care taking other people’s feelings
  • have improved self-worth; so you can find friendships that work for you – you deserve the best in life
  • feel empowered to choose relationships which lift you up and bring out the best in you
  • have tools to help you reduce any social anxiety or worries around judgement or criticism

We’ve really seen a massive shift in her over the last few months. She still struggles with talking about her feelings at times but the more relaxed and at ease I am, the more freedom I give her, the more confident and happy she is! It was so lovely to see how brave she was facing her fear. She performed her drama show last night and did it with such passion and confidence. She actually looked like she was having fun with it. It’s wonderful to see her confidence growing and her coming into her own. Thank you so much for helping us on our journey together.”

 

Emma, A Happy Mum from Surrey

 

What you’ll get …

Printable Journal

a colourful and engaging 50-page journal with regular prompts for discussion and reflection.

Smiley Coaching

Smiley coaching videos and creative coaching activities with mini challenges to put your learnings into action.

You’ll also get Smiley support + motivation in spades!

Live Group Coaching

We will have a weekly group coaching call. You can ask me any questions about  the course.If you can’t make it, you’ll be sent a reminder to email your questions and I’ll still cover them off.

Group Support

You’ll get additional support, advice + encouragement from me and other lovely children! You’re not alone! 

Here is a brief course outline …

Module 1

Welcome & Mini Friendship Assessment – – Audit your friendship values, look back at your friendship history and truly understand how you arrived in the space you are in now.

 

Module 2

Get to Know Yourself  – – What are you bringing to the friendship party? Are you over giving? Are you expecting too much? Can you learn to love your own company and enjoy time alone.

 

Module 3

Respect Yourself – – Step into your own power and learn how to truly value yourself and watch how other people start to value you too.

 

Module 4

Protect Yourself – –  Discover how to reduce your anxiety and feel safer in social situations or around angry or mean people.

 

Module 5

Stand up for Yourself – – How to be more assertive without losing it or stuffing your feelings down so you can ask for what you need. Your needs matter and you are totally worth it!

 

Module 6

Be Your Own Best Friend – – Managing your inner critic (you know that voice in your head which bullies you?) and learning to love and accept who you are – it’s not about being perfect, it’s about being true to who you are!

 

Smiley Special Bonuses 

Over one hour of Special Smiley Bonuses to help you grow your self awareness and inner strength from the inside out. 

Bonus 1

The Energy of YOU & Your Unique Energy Field Creative Coaching Exercise – –  you can work out your own unique energy blueprint and what you bring to the world. 

Bonus 2

Your Inner Star Guided Visualisation – –  to help you step into your empowered self. 

 

 

Bonus 3

Chanting for Courage – – listen as often as possible to build yourself up and feel strong. 

 

 

Bonus 4

Strengthening your Inner Self – – learn to let go of mistakes and disappointments

 

 

Enrol by 30th June

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I’m ready to learn more + help myself feel better

I want to be my own best friend

 

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MEET SMILEY COACH LISA PARKES

Why work with me?

Hi there! Nice to meet you. I’m Lisa;  better known as The Smiley Coach. For 10 years I’ve helped hundreds of lovely families like yours unravel, understand and change old patterns of behaviour, so you can live a MORE fulfilling and happy life.

Truth teller. KINDNESS Spreader. Creative Doodlebug. Ninja Detective. Recovering Perfectionist. CURIOUS Life Explorer. Empathy Educator. 

Through an intense journey recovering from childhood trauma – I’ve discovered my own blend of healing. I’m not a parent, or a therapist, but I most certainly have done my time in the trenches exploring deep grief, and all the icky emotions which come from recovery. 

It helps to have somebody hold your hand when you’ve lost your parenting mojo and are embarking on a little self discovery. It also helps to have somebody who knows their shiz, who can make you laugh and who gets you. NO JUDGEMENT here!

I want the best for you and your family. I have so much natural empathy for children and I’m razor sharp when it comes to making sure they feel seen, heard and validated for who they are. 

 

Got questions on your mind? 

When does it start?

1st July 2019. You’ll receive an email from me with everything you need to crack on. 

Are my children the right age?

The recommended age for this course is 8-12 year olds but teens and parents have also done it and find it very insightful. There is an ‘inner child’ in all of us that wants to be seen and heard. It deserves our time and attention.

It's not the right time for me, will you offer this again?

I don’ t know is the honest answer, but you can buy the eCourse and have a crack at it yourself. I won’t be there to gently guide you back or answer your questions if you choose to opt for this way. 

>>Click here to buy the eCourse anyway!

I'm worried that I'm not good enough with tech to do this

You don’t have to be a wizard with tech stuff. Besides maybe your children will intuitively know what to do. They seem to know way more than I do these days – I must be getting old. I will guide you through the process and once you’ve done it once and seen how easy it is, you won’t look back. It only becomes a block to coaching if you see it that way in your mind 🙂 It doesn’t have to be and even though I was resistant to being coached online initially, I realised that it can be just as powerful as face-to-face.

Does the course come with a guarantee?

As with life, there are no guarantees but if you follow my step by step instructions and are open to learning / trying things differently, you’ll definitely see a big improvement.

Will we be seen on the group coaching calls?

The weekly group coaching calls happen via a platform called Zoom. This is an app that you can download to your latop, tablet or phone. You can remain anonymous and do not have to contribute if you’d rather just listen in. Although you will get more from this programme, if you actively participate. 

How do I introduce this to my child?

Present coaching to your child in a positive light. Get their input and make sure you have their buy in. Coaching isn’t for problems. People don’t need fixing. Coaching is for getting the most out of life!

I find using positive analogies that your child can relate to work well. e.g. comparing me to a Sports Coach who is helping an athlete train for a marathon or a Football Coach who ensures a player is top of his game before a match.  In this way, a Life Coach ensures you are the happiest in your daily life and can help you overcome anything that troubles you.

Naturally, your child will be more comfortable  when they feel like they know me, so pop on over to my YouTube Channel  or listen in to the Truly Madly Smileypodcast where they can get to know me a little better. 

If your child is unhappy, I would focus on how coaching could make him or her feel better.  “This lady you can talk to can help you feel happier at school and help you cope with those people who are not being very kind to you or help you sleep at night so you are not tired.”

How do I get my child involved + engaged

In all my years of coaching, I see how children engage based on your approach to coaching. If you’re excited, enthusiastic and positive, then they will be on board. They may not approach it the way you would and that’s OK. Now this is the tricky bit: TRUST that everything they need to hear at the right time will be revealed to them (and to you!).  

If your child is resistant – sometimes we all can be when we’re entering something new or unknown to us, have a read of this blog post What to do when your child is afraid of change which I think you will find helpful.

Naturally, your child will be more comfortable when they feel like they know me, so pop on over to my YouTube Channel  or listen in to the Truly Madly Smileypodcast where they can get to know me a little better.

If your child is unhappy, I would focus on how coaching could make him or her feel better.  “This lady you can talk to can help you feel happier at school and help you cope with those people who are not being very kind to you or help you sleep at night so you are not tired.”

What the kids think …

“Thank you! You’ve helped me Smiley. Whenever I hear your voice I feel so safe!  I feel like this course has helped me be more aware of who is a real friend and who I want to play with.” 

Sophie & Eloise, age 10 

“I love it that I can be truthful and not feel ashamed. We love all the practical tasks and drawings. We like being able to type into the chat roll to talk to you.

– Scarlett, age 10

“I went to school and I wasn’t looking forward to PE, but I remembered to zip up my power suit and I felt safer and calmer. Thank you!”

– Poppy, age 10 

I’m ready to learn more + help myself feel better.

I want to be my own best friend!

£197

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