How easy is it to trust?
What is a believer?
I think a Believer has faith in things that cannot be seen. A believer has certain qualities and and ways of being that can hold the magic in life. Believers are:-
- Allow – they surrender to what will be and go with the flow
- Reflective – they don’t always think they have to take action when faced with a problem
- Trusting – they have faith in situations which feel out of their comfort zone
- Courageous – they don’t have all the answers but they know they can find a way
- Kind – they don’t have to be right, they would rather be kind
- Positive – they make sense of life’s experiences in a meaningful way that helps them grow
- See the Good – instead of criticising or focusing on what they struggle with
- Resilient – they bounce back from life’s challenges quickly and don’t give up because they know that something good or better is on its way
- Resourceful – they are not afraid to ask for help and finding new ways to tackle a challenge
Non-believers like to be control
Can you think about ways in which you over parent or take charge, when your child could be okay figuring it out by themselves? By taking control for your child, you are sending a message that says you need a grown up. Do you find yourself ‘helpfully’ doing things for your child that they could quite easily do for themselves? What about if your ‘helpfulness’ was ‘interference’ which meant your child had missed an opportunity to learn a valuable life skill? In my coaching practise I see parents who unintentionally control their environment (and their child’s) in order to keep everything safe. It’s a sub conscious act, but one which needs to be brought into awareness to be addressed.
Great things come from silence
I was driving home late one night from my first Kundalini yoga class. Dark woodlands all around me and no sign posts to tell me where to go. I shone my full beam at the road ahead, desperately searching for signs. I was descending a steep hill and zig zagged. I had to slow right down to feel in control of the car. I wanted to feel safe in the darkness. Anybody else still scared of the dark sometimes? As I was driving I turned the radio down. Ridiculous how I wanted to lose the noise to help me see more clearly, but lost in the darkness, I safely found my way home. I had to trust that I was going to find my way regardless of what I could or couldn’t see. I felt my way instead of going into that ‘what if’ space in my head where I allow my fear to take over and scare me. When you go into that quiet space. Just sit for 10 minutes with a cup of tea and be calm. Or go for a bath. Or a walk.
This is how you tune into your Mum-tuition
This is where your Believer-ability lives. That wise place where whatever you need in a given moment can come to you. When I’m coaching the children call it their wise owl or dolphin. When I go to this place, I use my Smiley Thought Cards to guide me. They have a funny knack of reflecting back to me what my intuition wants me to know. So in your day to day life, when you feel like you are driving in the dark and you can’t find your way home or you hit a bump in the road, take a deep breath and have faith that whatever happens, you will find your way.
I want to finish by sharing a lovely story about how if you are not a believer (or a Belieber) how you can be converted.