This week we hear from an Anxious Mum who is feeling frustrated because she can’t soothe her daughter’s anxiety. I think that’s the hardest thing about watching somebody you love struggle, when you don’t know what to do.
I’ve just arrived at work and I feel so bad, but I don’t really have time to sort this out because work is manic. That seems to be the way my life is right now: me whizzing about from one thing to another with my children in tow. I feel like it’s a real struggle to find time to do things the ‘right’ way.
I want to share with somebody who will get it, I feel like an epic Mum fail. As well total overwhelm with my son who is experiencing his own struggles with anger, my daughter’s anxiety has started to escalate to such a state before school, that we all feel under pressure. Whilst I understand her frustrations, I am sick and tired of being a human punch bag and feel as if there is no respite from this emotional turmoil.
No matter how much I reassure my daughter, I can’t seem to respond in the right way. She remains anxious and upset. This week she was worried and upset twice, as I had forgotten something that she needed for school. I know that her anger and frustration was out of total disappointment, but instead of empathising, I just yelled at her. I shouted about how stressed I am about work and how ungrateful she is. I feel like such a hypocrite because I worry a lot and I’m impatient with myself and my worries.
Writing this, I realise that I don’t feel connected to her anymore and we seem to have very heated encounters more than we have our fun moments. Now I won’t see her for hours until we get home this evening and that feels awful. What can I do?
A Frustrated + Worried Mum x
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Useful Links Mentioned in this Episode
Hop over to read this new week’s blog 10 Ways You Could Make Every Day More Like Mother’s Day
Read my other blog post 4 Real Truths About Anxiety That will Instantly Calm your Child
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