Every week, I jump on line and via the magic of Facebook Live answer your burning questions about life. Lately, we’ve been talking about friendships. So far we’ve tackled How to Get More Friends and How to Deal with Instagram haters. This week, we tackle dealing with pushy and strong personalities who leave us wishing we could say no more easily. I think this is one for the adults too. If you struggle to role model saying no to your kids, they will find it hard too.
My best friend and I have been close since we were little. We are very different but went to the same school and our Mums are friends. My best friend is very confident and is the leader of our group. I am quieter, but definitely kinder. We’ve had lots of fall outs and in the end I give in, because I don’t like all the arguing and the drama.
Earlier this year, I made a new friend at dance class. I’m spending less time with my old best friend and I can tell that she is upset. This makes me feel guilty, but I’ve realised that my new dance friend is so much easier to be with. She listens when I talk and last week at the cinema, she let me decide where we sat.
I’m not sure about my best friend any more unless I can be more like this with her. I want to talk and be more confident. I think I have changed, but when I’m with her, I feel small and like the old me. I don’t like this because she bosses me around and it’s really hard to say no to her.
I worry if these two friends will get on. Do you think I can be friends with both of them?
I hope you can help me. Thanks you.
A Confused Dancer (age 10)
Watch the video below and find out what happened in this week’s episode of Dear Smiley!
Useful Links Mentioned in this Episode
Read my boundary busting blog post which teaches you how to say no to tricky people
Bag yourself a box of beautiful and magical Smiley Thought Cards and get to know and value yourself.
Read my blog post on How to Be Heard Without Turning Up the Volume so you can be more assertive in your communication.